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MIL treats DH like a baby

33 replies

RunLikeTheDevil · 20/03/2009 14:25

This has been going on for a long time but I'm just sick of it. She treats DH like a baby. When she goes to shop she comes in with "his carrier" containing a curly wurly, pink wafers and a multipack of crisps.

Its just so childish. I know it shouldn't wind me up but it really does. AIBU?

OP posts:
RGPargy · 20/03/2009 14:27

If this is the only thing she does that you would consider treating him like a baby then i think you are lucky and therefore YABU!

lol!! I would love my mum to bring me curly wurlies!!!!

mamas12 · 20/03/2009 14:29

Couldn't you curl your lip and be ready to cry saying 'wheres mine?
I know it is laughable though isn't it. Don't you take the piss out of dh.

Kimi · 20/03/2009 14:31

She wuvs him so so much she wants to rot his teeth and give him a heart attack... nice

screamingabdab · 20/03/2009 14:33

Aaah, ain't it sweet!

I'd have to hear more to really judge, but I think you might be being a bit harsh.

ForeverOptimistic · 20/03/2009 14:44

My mil used to be like this with dh. She finally accepted that he was not a baby when he had his own baby. She is still like it with dh's brother but he likes it.

She still accompanies bil to appointments with GP even though he is 30 and married! She pops into his office with bacon sandwiches, she rubs cream up his bottom (there is a medical reason for this), still sends him pressies and birthday cards from the pets, she has telephoned his boss to tell him off before.

YANBU!

girlandboy · 20/03/2009 14:47

ForeverOptimistic - rubs cream up his bottom! You're going to have to elaborate on that one.

TrillianAstra · 20/03/2009 14:50

Can;t he rub cream up his own bottom? Or get his DW to do it?

ForeverOptimistic · 20/03/2009 14:53

He has poo problems and gets piles. Normally his wife does it for him but if she is not around he is happy for mummy to do it.

We were watching a repeat of that awful "Bitty" sketch on Little Britain recently and fil joked about how it reminded him of the way mil is with bil. Mil replied "well sadly my milk dried up when they were still tiny but if I still had milk now I would happily bf my babies". Her babies who are now 36 and 30!

Jux · 20/03/2009 14:55

Can he really not reach his own bum?

poshwellies · 20/03/2009 14:55

Shock Shock Shock

poshwellies · 20/03/2009 14:57

Thats soooooo NOT RIGHT.

So a man cannot apply pile cream,and his mother does it?

ForeverOptimistic · 20/03/2009 14:58

I'm sure he can but mummy does it better.

They are aware that the rest of the family think they are bonkers! Sil doesn't seem to mind.

I once had mil on the telephone to me at 6am crying because she had sleepless nights worrying that dh wasn't being fed enough. He was 30 at the time. I had to nip the situation in the bud.

screamingabdab · 20/03/2009 14:59

ForeverOptimistic A line has definitely been crossed

OR are you trolling us??

screamingabdab · 20/03/2009 15:01

All other MIL stories pale into insignificance against this one

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 20/03/2009 15:01

FO! 6am! I would have HAD WORDS.

screamingabdab · 20/03/2009 15:02

Has MIL got dementia? (this is a serious question)

ForeverOptimistic · 20/03/2009 15:03

No No No I am not trolling! In fact I am worried just in case sil is an mner! Mil likes to think we are all babies she bought me a toffee apple the other day, I just humour her now as I know she means well.

I could give you hundreds of examples but I don't want to hijack the thread and need to pick ds up from school!

snice · 20/03/2009 15:04

Please please FO come back later and give us hundreds more examples!!!!

Am bookmarking the thread for later

jumpingbeans · 20/03/2009 15:14

Oh dear, after reading this i best stop myself doing things, when i go shopping if i see things dd or ds might like , i buy them for them, also dsil and ssil as well as the grandchildren, i am going to scan these bloody threads to see if they are on here, has anyone seen anyone moaning about the mil taking them a bloody great black forest gat to pop in their freezer, or a nice bit of pork they might like for lunch one sunday, or extra fruit that might come in handy when the kids are on school holidays and loads more

friday32 · 20/03/2009 15:20

Why do mums treat their sons like babies all their lives i just dont understand daughters are made to fend for themselves from a fairly early age!They dont leave home till they have a wife to look after them and then if the marriage breaks down they generally go back home to mummy why is this ladies do you think?

jumpingbeans · 20/03/2009 15:26

ohhhh, because they let us mother them, thats why, they don't get to 4.5 put their hands on their hips and demand to do things themselves, our little boys let us, wether their 2,22 or 32

sausagenmash · 20/03/2009 15:29

Jumpingbeans - I think theres a bit of a difference in your buying of the odd nice thing to the OP's curlywurly Mum!

FO HAS to come back with more examples of piles mum! Good God, that is utterly unbelievable. I think there's something a bit dodge there... can't he wipe his own bum properly? It IS very 'Bitty'. [vom emoticon}

jumpingbeans · 20/03/2009 15:30

Your right, i love him dearly, but not sure i put piles cream up his arse

screamingabdab · 20/03/2009 16:55

jumpingbeans Are you my mother? She can't come over without a few pints of milk and a joint of beef. I love this about her, btw

Have you ever thought about starting a mother-in-laws support thread? I reckon they need it with the rollicking they get here on MN

purpleduck · 20/03/2009 17:04

Ugh at the piles/bum cream story. I keep getting images of Hairy Man Crack all covered in cream.