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Original poster

To ask my MIL not to call my daughter.....

74 replies

BunnyLebowski · 18/03/2009 18:17

.....sexy baby over and over again i.e

"Who's a sexy little baby?"

"DD's a sexy little baby"

"Sexy sexy sexy baby"

DD is 5 months old.

MIL was up visiting last weekend. I asked her not to use language like that as it's horrible and sounds completely ridiculous.

What's wrong with cute/gorgeous/cheeky ffs?!

Didn't go down well but she didn't do it again!

Was IBU?

P.S - This is my first post EVER on mn so please be gentle!

OP posts:
cyteen · 18/03/2009 18:48

YA most definitely NBU.

Have had a peek at your profile and your DD looks cute, adorable, cheeky and lovely. But not sexy!

Your MIL is odd.

screamingabdab · 18/03/2009 19:10

That's one hell of a sexy bump you got there Bunny

JackBauer · 18/03/2009 19:13

YANBU, but am finding it very odd to post on an AIBU thread with not one dissenter

Nabster · 18/03/2009 19:13

Scrumptious if fine.

screamingabdab · 18/03/2009 19:18

Jack Give it time

tessofthedurbervilles · 18/03/2009 19:19

What an odd thing for her to say....how very strange.

katiestar · 18/03/2009 19:56

Cambridge dictionary definition

sexy Show phonetics
adjective INFORMAL
1 sexually attractive:
He's very sexy.
a sexy smile
sexy underwear

2 describes something that attracts a lot of interest and attention:

MadamDeathstare · 18/03/2009 20:07

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BunnyLebowski · 18/03/2009 22:58

cyteen - Thank you We think she's pretty darn cute! Just had a squiz at your pics and your wee man is gorgeous!

Screamingabdab - Cheers! I loved my bump and felt much sexier with it than the stretchmarked flabby rolls that replace it now

No dissenters yet - maybe there simply is NO defence for such lunacy!

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 18/03/2009 23:02

Eek that is just disgusting. It's the precursor to 6 year olds wearing playboy t-shirts and thongs.

beanieb · 18/03/2009 23:04

Someone I know keeps putting status updates on her facebook saying stuff like 'I love my two sexy men' - she's talking about her boyfriend and her son. Makes me feel ill.

Original poster
BunnyLebowski · 18/03/2009 23:08

Precisely Alibaba.

As much as at 5 months old it has no direct effect on DD I, like you, DETEST the overt and premature sexualisation of our wee girls

It's a very very worrying phenomenon and we'll make every effort to protect DD from the like.

Saw a wee girl of about 7 the other week wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with "100% BITCH". Nuff said.

Oh and thongs for kids? Boke.

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AnnVan · 18/03/2009 23:45

Yuk. A friend referred to my DS's 'sexy legs' a couple of weeks ago. I didn't say anything but I didn't like it much either. I must have looked at her funny or something though because she hasn't said it again.

As others have said - premature sexualisation of children = gross.
YANBU by the way.

AnnVan · 18/03/2009 23:46

Oh - and about eating up - My mum always says she'll eat DS up, and I don't mind that so much, but it's when she says 'I'll eat you all up and spit out the bones' that I get a bit

chegirl · 18/03/2009 23:47

I hear this a lot where I live. People say it to my DS3. I find it icky. They dont say it to my older kids which is a blessing I suppose but how odd they seem to have rules! its ok to use it for a 15mth old but not a 6 year old. Weird.

Those horrible teeshirts seemed to have peetered out a bit. But the rise of the playboy themed stuff is unstoppable. Who the hell buys a playboy duvet for a 6 year old FFS? I love pink but even I draw the line at supporting a porn industry on the back of a child. My DD was not allowed that stuff and I let her have anything she bloody well wanted (when she was v.ill).

thumbwitch · 18/03/2009 23:53

Mental. Very weird. And just plain wrong.

thumbwitch · 18/03/2009 23:55

I wasn't over keen on my MIL referring to DS as a "pork chop" either (also weird) but still better than calling him sexy!

MollieO · 18/03/2009 23:56

Very odd. Is she a native English speaker? If she isn't then that might explain it.

MollieO · 19/03/2009 00:00

thumbwitch maybe she meant 'lamb chop' - a children's character]en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lamb_Chop_(puppet) in the 1950s/60s

thumbwitch · 19/03/2009 00:02

nope. I remember lamb chop, and she's Australian anyway - she was definitely referring to him being a pork chop in terms of being chubby and edible.

hmc · 19/03/2009 00:07

I think it is something that the unintelligent / ill-educated meant say innocuously without thinking through the implications

(hmc makes a pompous twat post and hastily leaves the building)

Bathsheba · 19/03/2009 12:26

My MIL's Husband used to call my daughters Sexy..

I HATED IT and glared at him everytime he did it and said it was inappropriate.

However the man was clinically stupid and unfeeling so did it anyway.

He died recently.

That stopped it.

And other awful behaviour of his.

MargaretMountford · 19/03/2009 12:30

hi bunny and welcome - very sweet baby girl too,I shudder to think of your MIL calling her sexy - that is just plain wrong in every way...

tattifer · 19/03/2009 12:35

New to this thread, would love to provide you all with a dissenter but can't. Find it most odd calling small girl sexy. Is it worse when it comes from a bloke?
Having said that I went out with a guy years ago who referred to anything mechanical (his kit car in particular) as being "sexy'. If something was really good it was "sex on a stick"...

DaphneMoon · 19/03/2009 12:42

I agree with everyone, it is really odd and not nice at all. Handsome - yes, pretty - yes, beautiful - yes, but sexy, bit perverted if you ask me.