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don't know what to do about sex...

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whatodo · 15/03/2009 20:28

I met a new man and like him. I do have some reservations anyway but generally like him and find him attractive. We've been out a few times and last night things got a bit heated.

We didn't actually have sex but were messing about etc...anyway, when touching him I noticed he had a really small dick . I know it sounds so superficial but am not sure that'd be ok, worried it'd be crap sex...it really was small from what I could work out and now feel like I've gone off him.

Not sure what to do...

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SoupDragon · 15/03/2009 20:29

Ditch him

PottyCock · 15/03/2009 20:29

Well, you won't know unless you try!

solidgoldbrass · 15/03/2009 20:30

What are your other reservations, though? Is he a druggie/always broke and scrounging/a racist/got a face like a bag of whelks/spends half his life in prison?

juicyjolly · 15/03/2009 20:30

If its already turned you off him/ then ditch him.

traceybath · 15/03/2009 20:30

Agree with soupdragon - afraid been there done that and it wasn't good.

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whatodo · 15/03/2009 20:31

I'm worried to try in case it's all a disaster, that's why things didn't go further last night.

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AMumInScotland · 15/03/2009 20:31

I think the usual response is "it's not what you've got, it's what you do with it that counts"! If he's got a good technique in other ways, then that's better than huge tackle and no style...

violethill · 15/03/2009 20:31

Go on try - then tell us all how you get on

PottyCock · 15/03/2009 20:32

A little todger doesn't necessarily equate to a crap shag ladies!

tessofthedurbervilles · 15/03/2009 20:32

I take it he was, ahem, standing to attention when you noticed his size?

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whatodo · 15/03/2009 20:32

I know traceybath, I have too and I have had my share of crap sex over the years. I am so fed up with rubbish sex. But what a reason! It's awful and he's probably really good at making up for it...

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juicyjolly · 15/03/2009 20:32

Ow Wow Tracy, I was so going to say that!
Been there, done that, and yes it was crap, so once again, ditch him.

PottyCock · 15/03/2009 20:32
Disenchanted3 · 15/03/2009 20:32

Oh god, he will SOknow thats the reason though!

Everything wasok till 'the fumble'...

Can you fake some kind of argument about something else to spare him?

Poor bloke.

Not that Id be any different than you.

Ewww.

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whatodo · 15/03/2009 20:33

yes tessofthedurbervilles he was!

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foxinsocks · 15/03/2009 20:34

oh you have to try it, surely

traceybath · 15/03/2009 20:34

oh dear - i really don't want to be mean but i do think it has to be a certain size to be good - i guess it depends on how small is small . . .

nooka · 15/03/2009 20:35

Well you can't fake attraction, so if you think it is a deal breaker then you need to move on. But given that sex can be fantastic even without penetration you may be missing on some enjoyable times.

tessofthedurbervilles · 15/03/2009 20:37

Oh I was hoping from small acorns mighty trees might grow...erm I have to say give it a try, it might feel good and if he is aware of it then he will no doubt go the extra mile on other areas.

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whatodo · 15/03/2009 20:37

I have actually told him that the reason I didn't want to take things further last night was because I am worried about crap sex. I explicitly explained that it's not with him, it my experiences that have made me this way and that I did actually explain (in not so explicit a way though) that before we even had a fumble.

Bad sex seems to ruin everything, for that reason (amongst other things) I think you have to wait a while, till you know each other but things got heated anyway.

Of course, I'd say that it was something else though...

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Disenchanted3 · 15/03/2009 20:38

Oh I was hoping from small acorns mighty trees might grow.

juicyjolly · 15/03/2009 20:40

Seriously though, its all good and well saying its not the size that matters etc. and yes, that is right, to a point. But the truth of the matter is, every young lady likes a good rollicking now and again and a decent size todger is definitely an asset.

BrokenFlipFlop · 15/03/2009 20:47

What other reservations do you have?

Also, as someone else said, it does depend on exactly how small he is.

I'm not sure that the 'its not the size but what he does with it' can ever apply if he's too small.

I recall being with one chappie who was so small that my little finger would have done a better job. I think he mistook my look of total shock at his size for pain as he asked me if he was hurting me!

I literally had to turn my head and bite the pillow to stop myself from laughing. I know ... he couldnt help what he had been um... 'blessed' with but... lord.

Anyway, I would either try him out or, ditch him because you have other reservations as well.

TrillianAstra · 15/03/2009 20:56

I secondtess's question: was it standing to attention? Some have much greater, um, expansion potential than others...

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whatodo · 15/03/2009 21:13

trillianAstra - yes it was. I was shocked at the time, never known one so small...

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