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To tell a bloke in Asda to F*ck Off?

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chocolatecremeegg · 14/03/2009 16:20

Was minding my own business in Asda, kneeling down to pick up some bread on the shelf only to have a bloke ram his trolley against me, making me topple over. I'm 9 weeks pregnant too. I struggled up from the floor and looked at him and said "excuse me". He screamed "I said excuse me to your husband". He thought a random bloke doing some shopping nearby was my husband (he wasn't!) Why he thought saying excuse me to him rather than to me was acceptable I don't know. The bloke came over stared aggressively at me and told me I needed to watch what I say, I could see such hate and anger in his eyes. My blood was boiling at this point and my back was sore from where he'd scraped past me so I lost it (normally I try and avoid any confrontation...) and told him to F Off. I think it worked though as he just stormed off and didn't say anything. Feel a bit shaken up by it all to be honest though, I had visions of him waiting for me outside the store to beat me up... I wish I'd kept my cool to be honest, will be worrying about it now for the rest of the day.

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 14/03/2009 19:05

In the heat of the moment, these things happen.

Don't worry about it.

JazzHands · 14/03/2009 19:07

I don't think it's unreasonable to swear if someone aggressively and intentionally knocks you over, pregnant or otherwise.

Would you say the same if he had walked up to her in the street and pushed her over and then aggresively told her to watch herself?

nickytwotimes · 14/03/2009 19:09

Not the best response, but given the circumstances, understandable.

Tbh, I really don't get the ridiculous snobbishness about a supermarket.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 14/03/2009 19:12

I think the supermarket snobbery might just have been a joke. It's Asda. This is MN. It's a bit like mentioning Greggs and fruitshoots...

TsarChasm · 14/03/2009 19:16

Yes, if this sort of thing happens in Waitrose you're challenged to a game of mixed doubles to settle the matter. So much more civilised

dittany · 14/03/2009 19:16

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nickytwotimes · 14/03/2009 19:19

Ah, right.
I thought the Asda thing was genuine.

(I shop there as I can no longer afford Tesco and we have NO SAINSBURY'S or Waitrose and I am not happy! )

nickytwotimes · 14/03/2009 19:19

Pmsl at TsarChasm!

MadamDeathstare · 14/03/2009 19:21

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JazzHands · 14/03/2009 19:22

When I was a schoolgirl a woman in waitrose told me and my friends to fuck off as we were giggling in the sweetie aisle.

She said it in a v posh voice.

We were

MadamDeathstare · 14/03/2009 19:22

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 14/03/2009 19:23

Giggling in the sweetie aisle. How shocking!

JazzHands · 14/03/2009 19:24

Hmmm madamdeathstare...

I don't think we can regret feminism due to the actions of one horrible bloke in asda?

Probably all the horrible blokes 20/30 years ago resented all the door holding etc so much they went home and beat the crap out of their wives/mothers/daughters who were unable to get away from them due to financial inequality.

I dread to think what dittany is going to say...

TsarChasm · 14/03/2009 19:26

Aw..'giggling in the sweetie aisle' Blimey how harmless was that? Some people are right miserable aren't they?!

JazzHands · 14/03/2009 19:29

It was about 20 years ago I have just got over it....

She was a right bitch though. Then again we were giggling quite a lot.

I think she was annoyed we blocked her passage to the bags of mini-twix.

mrsrawlinson · 14/03/2009 19:29

I'm all in favour of ASDA. Keeps the riff-raff out of Marks. They do lovely cake, BTW. You deserve some by the sound of it.

HecatesTwopenceworth · 14/03/2009 19:29

He sounds like a bully. Bangs into you and doesn't care, gets aggressive when you dare to challenge him, runs away when you turn out to be feisty and not scared of him.

He'll probably go home and kick the dog or something. I know the type.

MadamDeathstare · 14/03/2009 19:30

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JazzHands · 14/03/2009 19:31

My DH got the shopping after work the other day and it was all M&S

When I questioned whether he had suddenly come into money he explained the queues in sainsburys looked a bit long.

Bless his little cotton socks.

nickytwotimes · 14/03/2009 19:31

Hmm, men wouldn't have treated women like that, would they?!
They were let of with battering their wives at home though, weren't they.

TsarChasm · 14/03/2009 19:32

Omg I have been known to shop at..........I can barely type this...Aldi. I know. The shame.

The scariest thing in there was a life sized cardboard cutout of Phil Vickery. I had the wrong glasses on and thought a strange man was leering at me. Trolley barging is de rigeur in Aldi. It's how we communicate.

nickytwotimes · 14/03/2009 19:33

MDS, I totally agree that there is a manners vaccum. I don't think it's down to feminism though. I think it's part of the bigger picture of societal changes.

nickytwotimes · 14/03/2009 19:34

TC< be gone from this place!

TsarChasm · 14/03/2009 19:34
JazzHands · 14/03/2009 19:37

at engineers as a breed supporting feminism!

I have noticed that manners differ dramatically depending on where I am.

The worst manners ever - really appalling - are in Canary Wharf at rush hour. It's a combo of people being in a hurry, there being lots and lots of people and that many of the people are "time is money" thatcher's child types.

I would always hold the door open for the next person and about 5 or 6 would sweep through. And they always drop doors on people even when they are heavily pg.

God I hated working there!

Maybe the man in Asda was being followed around by someone testing him out for suitability to work in canary wharf? He would have passed with flying colours