to delete someone from facebook/ignore them in the playground because I am sick of hearing about their pregnancy?

[wannaBe]

have a friend who is about 24 weeks pg with her 4th child and she is doing my head in.

Now don't get me wrong, pregnancy is very exciting, but she talks about it to the exclusion of everything else. So if you ask how she is she'll say "am fine, bump is moving/am x weeks/x days today," every time. her status on facebook always reads something like "x is loving being pregnant so much/x is 20 weeks today/x loves my children even more because they keep hugging the bump," ...

She bought a doppler and took it to a party at friend's house and got it out and asked if everyone wanted to hear the heartbeat.

And when she told her ds that he could tell all his friends she became quite irate with some of them when they didn't get all excited (these are 7 yo boys, they're hardly going to be excited about their friend's mum expecting a baby in 6 months time as was then).

Am happy for her obviously, am just sick of hearing about it.

At first I thought 'ah, she's excited, PFB and all that' but her 4th? Sounds like she's going a bit OTT. You might cause a huge pregnancy hormone row if you ignore her/delete her. Would it not be better to speak to her about it?

I could see why it might be a bit annoying but your reaction is a bit strong if she's a friend. You've only another 16 weeks to put up with it.

She might interpret your deletion/ignoring as jealousy.... which will make her feel very holier-than-thou.

Don't reply to her facebook status, post a far more interesting status of your own, and change the subject in the playground.

Does she know you're ttc wannabe?

YABU

she clearly has some intense pregnancy related feelings going on, which, even fi you weren't TTC, would be a teeny bit wearing.

she loves being pregnant, and goes on about it, but that is not a reason to effectively end a friendship

the FB updates etc are not just aimed at you

I think bragging about pg is always ungracious and unfeeling. Being happy is fine but going on and on is so likely to be hard on someone around you.
Unfortunately these are tactless times and you cannot expect sensitivity from other people. But I feel for you wannabe, I've been there many times

Her behaviour sounds highly irritating, even to someone who isn't TTC. If she knows you're TTC then perhaps she could consider being a bit more tactful. However, if she is actually a friend as opposed to an acquaintance, then I think ignoring her in the playground would be unreasonable, although I fully understand why you'd want to.

Next time it comes up on your mini feed click at the end of the line and there is "hear less about this person" type option.

Click. Voila!

grin and bear it... only another 16 long weeks to go!

actually she probably is more of an aquaintence than a friend.

I do realize that her comments are not aimed at me in particular, the doppler incident was relayed to me by someone else who had found it slightly uncomfortable, because she didn't really want to be listening to heartbeats but didn't feel she could say no iyswim.

It doesn't upset me in terms of my inability to conceive, the only part of that that does annoy me a bit is that she tells people they struggled to conceive as it took her three months to fall pg, . it just winds me up, I guess in the same way as it would get on my nerves if someone was talking about one subject and one subject only to the exclusion of everything else.

Practically, i think on fb you can set her updates to off. On phone at mo pm cant tell you how. For the playground why not just say it is a bit much for you?

Does she know you're ttc?

Do we know the same people. I have deleted dh best friend for this very reason.
We were the first among our friends to have dc's and he was the typical single male always trying to black mail dh for not going out with the lads. he even cried to dh once when rather drunk that he felt excluded [hmm}
Anyway skip a couple of years he shacks up with girl he has known about 3 weeks they have whirlwind romance, fair enough she's way too good for himvery nice and they are now expecting a baby.
They phoned to tell us and announced it on fb the same day and she hadn't missed a period yet just done one of those early test anyway to cut a very long story short from that day i had to endure endless status reports about "how much he wanted the bump to know it was loved" "how she grew more beautiful every day etc", every bloody last detail of the pregnancy, by week 14 i deleted him, i was afraid he might start giving us updates on her discharge.
Deleting him was the best thing i ever did he knows i've done it but i don't care. The only thing is he now sends my dh photos of his girlfriends week by week belly to his phone, dh is far to afraid of upsetting his feelings.
So after that very long post YANBU delete her with a message about how she should join nethuns where she can people updated with those horrible little counters.

YABU

Let the woman enjoy her pregnancy. You don't have to read her updates (you can change your settings so you see less of her) and it doesn't sound like you have much contact with her beyond that.

but pg is an exciting time and if she wants to gush- fair enough.dont fall out about it.

YABU - you would seriously ignore her for this?

I was going to say YABU until you mentioned her special party piece, she sounds like she is being very OTT so YANBU.

sounds uber annoying - If you posted this a few months ago I'd wonder if we knew the same person, "mine" seemed to update her status every day and after a while it was vom inducing "X is lovin bein kicked, its the best feeling in the whole world, cant believe forgot how wonderful it is". I barely know the woman (friend of an ex friend) and I kept getting group texts from her updating me on her "wonderful news". She even put her labour pics up on FB - yuck!

As for the doppler at the party - what an attention seeker!

But like others have said, you can just opt to not see her status updates on your homepage

is it me???
Although dont remember taking a doppler to a party...lol

Bloody hell - you lot are a miserable bunch!

Let her be happy about her pregnancy - it's a GOOD thing, share her joy, be a friend. Indulge her a bit. That's what friends are for.

yabu a bit. it does sound v. grating and soppy though.

Oh stop being such a misog! She is excited, poor thing.

I heart pregnant women - send her my way and I will indulge her!

There's a difference between being an excited pregnant woman and being so narcissistic that you believe you owe it to the world to update them every 5 minutes on the latest 'fascinating' news of your gestation.

exactly, I can happily talk weddings till the cows come home, will happily look through endless samples with engaged friends, but there is a difference between an excited bride to be and a bridezilla who has suddenly become the centre of gravity!

same applies to pregnant ladies!

id be tempted to say after another comment in the playground 'there will be no surprises by the time baby arrives' - is that too subtle? trying to be kind but say enough is enough?!