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Original poster

to be really quite upset about this "joke"

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emkana · 08/03/2009 21:35

A friend of mine has just been headhunted.

In an (online) exchange about this I said "I can't see that ever happening to me" (been SAHM for eight years)

So friend says "Well they do need good sandwich makers in McDonalds"

(Which was brought on by me complaining about the groundhog doggishness of having to make sandwiches again)

aibu not to see the funny side?

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emkana · 08/03/2009 23:29

I love being a SAHM and would do it all over again, but I do feel a bit sensitive about it in that I feel that my friends think I've "thrown my life away", I was very successful at university and they can't understand why I didn't make more of the opportunities I had.

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thumbwitch · 08/03/2009 23:40

If you are happy with your choices, then your friends' opinions shouldn't matter to you and they should possibly learn to keep them to themselves after the first time! Not everyone wants to go the career route. Vive la difference!

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emkana · 08/03/2009 23:56

A voice of reason

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KerryMumbles · 08/03/2009 23:57

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emkana · 09/03/2009 00:01

[relieved that KerryMum seems to be on her side]

not a close friend

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MrsMerryHenry · 09/03/2009 00:03

It depends on how it was said, but I can't imagine that she was actually serious about it. Perhaps you are being too sensitive.

KerryMumbles · 09/03/2009 00:05

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emkana · 09/03/2009 00:06

MrsMerryHenry, it was during an online chat, so difficult to gauge

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thumbwitch · 09/03/2009 00:07

come come, MrsMH - we can't be differing in opinion on something, can we?
I think the McD reference was really the shitty bit, myself, as someone else mentioned, if it had been pret a manger or even subway, it wouldn't have been quite such a put-down!

MrsMerryHenry · 09/03/2009 00:16

emkana. Now really. Have you not mastered the art of spying on online chatters with your webcam? Nowadays you can see everything they're doing!

(sorry - didn't read your OP properly )

Though I still suspect she meant it as a joke but should have thought better than to write it since email, etc is so easily open to misinterpretation.

Thumbwitch - I fear that we may indeed be differing in opinion. It pains me, but let's see this as a great opportunity to strengthen our friendship .

Okay, that's enough; let's bond again: here's to good friendship!

thumbwitch · 09/03/2009 00:22

friends for life, MrsMH!

MrsMerryHenry · 09/03/2009 00:24

I'm trying to convince myself that in these financially perilous times it's more cost-effective to buy heaps of expensive chocolate and 'make it last' (guffaw) than to have a social life.

(seeing as I have virtually no social life anyway this would only result in me spending more than I do already!)

thumbwitch · 09/03/2009 00:26

I keep telling DH the same thing, MrsMH - while the G&Bs is on special at the supermarkets, it makes sense to buy loads of it, cos I'm going to eat it anyway - he just doesn't see it that way...

MrsMerryHenry · 09/03/2009 00:31

ON SPECIAL???????????? Where? Where? WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERE?

Tortington · 09/03/2009 00:34

a good friend can always find something nice to say. Rhubarb is a constant ego boost in my ever increasing times of need of late. shes a rock. I suppose its hard to make a definitive anser without truly hearing the context but if indeed it were as the op, it was thoughtless.

thumbwitch · 09/03/2009 00:46

(it's the T-shop, the one where lots of MNers don't go cos it's baaaad but it's my nearest and does lots of 2 for £3, or 3 for 2 on G&B)

MrsMerryHenry · 09/03/2009 00:47

The T shop ending with an O?

thumbwitch · 09/03/2009 00:48

that's the one!

MrsMerryHenry · 09/03/2009 00:54

I shall go against all my principles on account of cheap, great chocolate!

thumbwitch · 09/03/2009 01:03

that's the way, MrsMH - chocolate rools!

AitchTwoOh · 09/03/2009 01:05

i really think it was just a joke, emkana. you were moaning about sandwiches. tbh i think a lot of people on here are expecting this woman to be a bit psychic... it's not my friends' job to continually stroke my ego, they can say silly/arsey/touchy things and i won't get the hump.

KiwiKat · 09/03/2009 14:12

It's possible that she was feeling a little embarrassed about it and while she was happy and proud, didn't want to be too 'me', 'me', 'me' about it, and so made what she thought was a lighthearted comment. Is she the kind of person who would be embarrassed and sad if she knew she'd hurt you? Because there's your answer.

MorrisZapp · 09/03/2009 15:56

I don't get it. You moaned that you will never be headhunted, yet you say you are happy being a SAHM. Do you want to be headhunted? Who by?

Or do you want to actually keep being a SAHM with moral superiority over anybody who makes a lighthearted comment about some sandwich making activities you mentioned earlier?

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emkana · 09/03/2009 19:14

It's great, you know me better than I know myself. I have no sense of humour, am miserable in my SAHM-dom, but at the same time claim moral superiority over those who follow a career route.

I thank you for the analysis of my (frankly despicable) character.

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