to think people should wait to be told a baby has been born and not keep asking?

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its doing my head in!!! Like we wouldnt mention it to close family!!

So have you had that baby yet?

I know how you feel. I had it for about 3 weeks before DS2 came.

lol zachary!

now is the time to stop answering your phone.
maybe you could record a message that says, 'no, we haven't had the baby yet, we'll let you know when we do, leave your name and number if you want to be on the list of people to call, now leave us alone'.

I know its annoying but its just because they care.

Next time they phone - say 'oh yes i had the baby last week - did i not say?'

I love tracey's idea!!

Or say 'Ummm, hang on a sec, let me think....went to the shops yesterday, did my shopping Friday...errr saw my mum today...no, no I don't think I've had the baby yet'

My baby was two weeks overdue and I was really ready to snap with people emailing, phoning to ask if I'd had the baby yet...like you'd forget to mention it!
Dragon is right - put a cheery message on your phone and then don't answer it. Good luck!!

Should have lied about dates! After the first one was 10 days overdue, I decided to lie by two weeks for the next two. Am being vague about this one's due date.

Try phoning them all at a stoopidly early time in the mornig, just to let them know ou are not in labour and haven't had the baby yet.

They will soon get the message

I lied about my dates and it hasn't worked! I'm only 33 weeks and people are already asking! I swear they just don't pay attention to weeks...they look at me and I'm bloody huge so they think it should be any day now. Grrrrrrrrr.

I think people ask because they can't think of anything else to say. They just want to touch base. Its of course ridiculous because of course you are going to let them know!

It drives me mad. I'd stop talking to people too. Although we did that and MIL freaked coz she couldn't get hold of us so started ringing round my family in a panic LOL. Theres no winning!

It's fecking annoying isn't it! As if you wouldn't tell them. Lying about your due date is great! I might try that next time...

Love the idea about lying about dates but thats quite hard with family and they are the worst I think. I can forgive the friends we dont speak to often calling up to ask how things are but family should really know better! Especially mothers!

The other thing is everyone has an opinion about the home birth we have planned. Safe/not safe, mess/not messy, pool bigger than we expected/ wrong shape. People insisting on reminding me I cant have an epidural at home. Cant they all just get stuffed- its none of their business! No one comments on choices made if you got to hospital...... AND relax...

Can you tell Im reaching end of pregnancy narkiness??

ooh not to mention how long the bloody pool will take to fill. Did they think we hadnt planned for that, thought about that at all!!!

YABU. People care about you.

Oh no I've just done this to my friend. And I had to stop myself doing it to a friend of DH's a little while ago. It's my way of saying "I've remembered you're due about now [I have a dreadful memory] I'm thinking about you, I'm excited and I can't wait to hear your news"
I only send a text near the time once though, I don't pester.

I rather enjoyed people asking me - it showed they cared, and I was very bored by the end of both pregnancies so it was good to have lots of people to chat to on the phone! So YAB a little bit U

Dragon butter are you my sister - thats the message they put on their answering machine!

I used to have my fil ring up and cheerfully as if I had 'performed yet'.

We just told people that as soon as there was something to tell, they would know.

But fil still rang up each day. Then they moaned at dp for waking them up at 6am with THE NEWS that their first grandchild had arrived!

My SIL was driven mad by my dad ringing to ask for news of his first grandchild.

I'm with tracy on this one -be glad you have so many people who care, and next time someone asks, make a joke out of it and they'll realise they're being daft.

Oh you lot are right. IABU- these people care.... - Sugar, wish I'd get some nice calls from people wanting to chat to see how I really am though, rather than losing interest when i say no update!

Stealth, I'd love to get a nice text from someone like you... think my lot are just a weird breed!

YANBU.

I always lie about my due date by 3 weeks. And then when DD arrived 2 weeks 'early', I just shrugged and said babies come when they're ready.

People might be well meaning but it's still annoying especially when you're getting texts during labour or DH is, rather.

OMG - my MIL called when was in early labour - lied my head off. She never usually calls and have only met her once - and that was after we were already married. In run up to due date was always on the phone! Lie, lie and lie again to people is my suggestion. If you have already told them the due date then make sure you tell them that MW has said 'no engagement, no signs' even if you know it's any day.

My mum was convinced I'd give birth at 28 weeks because she did, so from 26 weeks kept calling to ask 'are you ok?' Luckily by 32 weeks she gave up...
Unfortunately a couple hours after I went into labour she just happened to phone... so poor MrNC then got loads of calls every couple hours - which he ignored so my parents called the hospital, who are very good at explaining that things are proceding in tedious fashion, we'll call you when there's any news, and hanging up!