to think people should wait to be told a baby has been born and not keep asking?

[GYoIsReallyHavingABaby]

its doing my head in!!! Like we wouldnt mention it to close family!!

I don't actually say all that in my text, they'd think I was a nutter
So...any twinges yet?

Totally agree@OP With my first baby the whole world and their dog turned up at the hospital and grabbed the baby off me. I put me foot down with my second baby - no visitors until you're invited, nobody taking my baby away unless I offer her to you.

Oh god, I hated this crap and I was only 2 days overdue.

The worst was: "any signs?"

As if I was going to say: "well yes, actually, I shed the mucus plug this morning"

lol - maybe you should have said that - and offered to send them a photo on your phone - that would ahve taught them

chequersmate PMSL.... great answer!!

"Well, I've just had a bout of raging diarrhoea......" you could always try that one as well, for a bit of variety.

"Oh FUCK, did DH not call you? Healthy baby boy, 8lb, arrived three and a half weeks ago!
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Of course I'll bloody tell you when it happens."

Would you rather the phone didn't ring at all?? Just deal with it and be thankful you have people who care.

This is driving me crazy. And actually, I'm afraid to say I don't think it is necessarily because people care. Asking all the time does not necessarily = CARING, just as leaving people to it (like I always do) and giving people space, waiting for the news, does not = NOT CARING.

I have had a lot of really passive/aggressive 'caring' from some friends and family who are actually just very pervasive, slightly toxic control freaks, who can barely conceal their frustration/annoyance/anger when I am trying to be fairly kindly vague about my dates.

The people who I consider to be truly caring just take the hint and are ready to be there with the appropriate love and excitement when the time is right. I am getting heartily sick of the so called 'worry' and 'concern' from people who just aren't satisfied until they have controlled/influenced/commented on your every move. This is NOT caring in my book!

I don't find it hard to just let people be, and really don't understand this brand of 'love'. Thankfully most people are pretty sensible and sensitive.
Fucking hell can you tell I have had some crappy conversations today? The anger is practically shimmering off this computer...sorry...

yes YABU, but when I went overdue with dd2 I felt just the same. So, given that you are probably not perfect in every way, really YANBU. Hope you pop soon!

Totally agree with your view Prince.

If said people regularly phoned/ texted/ emailed it would be different....

Quite honestly not that fussed if phone doesnt ring! Usually ignore it anyway