OK, here's one for you...

[MrsMattie]

I know it's not really a big deal, but it has really pissed me off.

DH has been away for a week on business (business in a sunny destination, that largely involves a meetings over lunch/drinks by the beach ).

So, he texts me a couple of days ago asking me if there is anything I would like, as he is going to the local mall for the afternoon (oh, how hard he works!).

Money isn't flying around at the moment, so I didn't give him some great long list. All I asked for was one pair of jeans if the price was good (ie. better than it would be in a high street shop over here). I stated quite clearly that I wanted blue jeans in a US size 10, straight or skinny, not bootcut'. I had a baby 14 wks ago and have absolutely no clothes. DH knows how depressed I am about it...

Anyway, he returned this morning and has just given me a pair of bootcut - almost flare-like, actually - jeans . I didn't make a big deal about it, but I am pissed off that he couldn't just go up to the shop assistant and say 'I want a pair of size 10 skinny jeans, please'.

He has bought loads of stuff for himself and the kids, btw.

men and clothes shopping doesn't go. I bet he has no idea that ther are actually different styles in jeans. I know my DH doesn't!

YABU. It's very hard to find jeans that fit, and almost impossible to buy them for someone else.

Oh and YABU for being a size ten 14 weeks after giving birth

I guess so. Funny how he is capable of knowing both the kid's sizes and doing load sof shopping for them (which I am happy about, don't get me wrong) but cannot buy me one pair of decent jeans {sad]. S'pose I am just taking it badly because I have so few clothes that fit at the moment.

US size 10@belgo! That's a 14 to you and me

YAB a bit U

Its really hard to get a great fitting pair, and by the sounds of things he did try.

I'm sure they will come in useful, babies can be sick quite a lot you might need them !

Please don't shoot me but in my very! humble opinion, nobody but nobody looks good in skinny jeans, not even Kate Moss, who for all intents and purposes invented them.
High streets everywhere are filled with sausages in skinny jeans and Ugg boots [yukkk).

i don't think you're being unreasonable. i can understand why you're disappointed.
I would have been too, if he coudlnt' remmeber what you'd asked for he could have called you surely?

Baby he has been advised 14 weeks post birth that bootleg would be more flattering and is trying to be helpful, I bet they look great and if they don't send them to me !!

I meant maybe, can you tell I've spent all morning in the IVF clinic

When my DH goes away, which is not that often, he usually brings me less (if anything) than him.......I find it quite outrageous. Not only does he go somewhere nice without me but I look after our children too, I expect at least a brilliant gift.
YANBU

Can I just add another moan (starting to have to suppress a giggle, now). He has just presented me with some Touche Eclat and it is Shade 3 (dark, orangey) when I asked for Shade 1.

Oh dear

YABU, jeans are a PITA to buy and choose there are so many slightly different types. Sometimes you need to put yourself first and go and try on and buy some nice clothes for yourself.

I agree, bootleg are more flattering.

Why don't you get him to look after the kids tomorrow and take yourself shopping?

Sorry peeps, but I am definitely not a bootcut girl. I have a bit of a post-baby belly at the moment but I have very long, skinny legs (I'm 6 feet tall) and bootcut just make me look like someone's mum. Slim-fit - if not skinny- are best for me, deffo. Ah well. He is sulking a bit now. The bloody cheek!

I actually don't think you should buy jeans without trying them on anyway. And a lot of men don't 'get' womens clothing when it comes to cut and shape.

DH always buys me stuff that you really can't fuck up. Beautiful watch last time, handbag the time before and he gets back Saturday night so waiting to see.

YANBU expecting him to get what you want but YABU asking for something that requires a full explaination of design. cut and size.

I would love to go shopping, but want to wait until I have lost another stone (lost a stone last month, got another to go) before I buy any clothes. These were just going to be 'tide me over' jeans.

Ach, well.

Very jealous that your DH buys you nice handbags and watches. My DH is useless at that sort of thing.

at MrsMattie . It has taken 20 painful years of trainning .....

I don't think YABU at all, you would be if he had brought what you requested and you just didn't like them, as jeans are hard to buy for another person, let alone if you are a man!

However you specifically said 'not bootcut', so like you say he just had to ask an assistant for size 10 slim or skinny, hardly rocket science.

If you take the touche eclat back to any department store I'm sure they will change it as long as it's not been used. Just say you grabbed the wrong one by miskake and you can't find the reciept.

Oh and I am 5.10 and I look awful in bootcut too.....

and for some reason (god alone knows why, but you know you always have a mental image of people) I alway imagined you to be really short. No offence.

YANBU. But YABUnrealistic.

Don't you remember? When mean hear women's voices it sounds like music. So they don't take anything in. Unless the woman's voice is saying 'please let me give you a blow job'.

Even if I write a detailed shopping list for DH he'll still get things wrong and then claim that they weren't on the list. And then he gets upset when I tell him that he doesn't read my lists properly.

Don't even try, MrsMattie, you'll never win this one.

I'd be pissed off too, not a big deal in the scheme of things, but you told him exactly what you "wanted"!

At least he thought of you :-)

YABSU.

Oh I think YANB at all U.

Why is it some men (including mine) are incapable of walking into unfamiliar shop, straight up to an assistant and say "My wife has asked me to get her xxx, can you help?"

Shop assistants. The clue is in the name.

i think hes done you a favour
skinny and straight jeans are most unflattering