To want to spend time with my mum instead of partners family on Mothers day???

[nikki2607]

This is prob going to seem such a silly thing to be asking advice on but would like to know your thoughts please.

My partner has just said we are going to his sisters for lunch on Mothers Day because its his neice and brother-in-laws b-day. I have told him i would rather not go as really want to spend the day with my own mum.

This is going to be my first Mothers Day with my 7month old Baby boy. And is even more special to me as i lost a baby nearly three years ago (was 18weeks preg and lost a baby boy "Joshua")

My partner has had a go at me because he thinks im being unfair by not going to the birthday lunch. I have said i am happy for him to go but i would love to spend the day with my own mum (not mother-in-law to be!)
Any other day i would be happy to go.

Am i being unreasonable by saying this to him?
x

YANBU.

I don't normally post on these AIBU threads and, to be honest, have only skimmed through the last few replies, but was incredibly surprised to see that anyone could think that you WERE being unreasonable. Of course you aren't!!
Mother's Day is not a big deal in my family at all but clearly it is important for you and of COURSE you should be able to spend it with your mother if you want to. I honestly can't understand why anyone could disagree with that...unless maybe they read your post wrong and thought you were insisting that your partner came to your mum's too??

YANBU. Absolutely not. And congratulations on your little baby