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To be really frustrated with DSD?

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ToiletRollCover · 26/02/2009 11:06

My Dsd is 17 and has been living at her boyfriends mothers house for about 9 months now.
Earlier this week she had a huge row with her bf mum and both decamped to our house to sleep on our floor.

They have been in contact with the housing association to try and find a flat. Neither she or her bf are working and he has quite bad mental health problems so they say they are quite high on the priority list for housing.

I have been helping them try and track down a flat and have given them countless numbers to ring with possible properties.

Dsd is now getting quite hysterical as she says they must have a place as they are homeless. She then turns down all suggestions of studio flats or house shares saying they make her too anxious.

She also is adament that she must find a flat that allows pets as she wants a hamster.

The poor bf is really trying to keep things upbeat but I can see that he's really struggling. He wants to go back to his mums until they find somewhere suitable but Dsd gets all flouncy and refuses on the basis that his mum hates her and she can't stand the atmosphere.

Could anyone give me any advice on the best way to deal with this. I've tried talking to her but she's very volatile and I'm quite a wuss!

Sorry this has been so long and thanks in advance for your help!

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ToiletRollCover · 27/02/2009 14:44

It's a great idea. Will tell DP when he gets home.

The hamster thing gets me a bit too. They've actually already bought one and one of their freinds is looking after it. Our tenancy states no pets but if she stays I suppose we could try to work something out as long as I don't end up looking after it!!! Can't hurt if it keeps the peace a bit!!!

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mrsjammi · 27/02/2009 14:48

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Leo9 · 27/02/2009 15:17

mrsj that's such a good point - I think she needs all the adults involved here to present a strong and united front to her which clearly shows her where the boundary is and where she stands with all of them.

If she is able to go from here to there when she has these tantrums then really it would just be encouraging her ability to manipulate in this way.

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