To think my fiance should ask me before syaing yes to his employers!!

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Df has come home tonight and said he has to go work in Eastern Europe for a few weeks. His firm has a new client there and they want df to go make some connections. He has said yes - and is quite excited about the travel.

I am furious - we are supposed to be getting married in a few months and if this job goes bad he could be trapped there for months! His employer is lovely (mostly) but the new client sounds very demanding and is going to want a lot of work from dh. Am I being unreasonable to not want my fiance sucked dry by his work?

You don't know that will happen and in the current climate he probably couldn't say no.

yabu
you are just thinking of the worst case scenario surely?
if he says no would it be awkward for him at work?

I think you are sounding a little bridezilla. Presumably he could fly home for a wedding and book holiday as usual?

He isn't a dog!

I just don't think he's thought about what's at stake here!

Did they actually give him the option to say no? I know my dp has been asked for on the spot decisions quite a few times- luckily we can work round most of them- but sometimes it might be how it was put, rather than your fiance being given the option of talking it out.

YABU

assuming he is over there, he will be able to come backwards and forwards?

his contract probably says that he may be required to work off site/new location

What is at stake?

ya probably bu but I do sympathise - would have been nice if he'd talked to you about it first.
I think it's hard for people to say no to things at work just now...

what is at stake?

I am not understanding why he would possibly be trapped there for months. Honestly, if it goes bad, wouldn't they just fire him and send him home?

You say your wedding is months away. I suppose after you're married you'll have a tracker on him to watch him every second?

YANBU in thinking he should have talked to you first but YABU if you are expecting him not to go if it's part of his job.

Sorry if your wedding plans are going to have to be delayed though

The new work contact sounds out of this world tbh! Very scary high flying type - and I think if he doesn't get every drop of blood out of df he jus won't let him leave. Df isn't great with communicating with me - as this post shows - and i think he'll just get stuck there and not be able to extricate himself!

I think you should be pleased for him, it means a secure start to married life in difficult times

presumably he has booked time off for the wedding and honeymoon?

so, what is at stake?

Sorry. You sound a bit mad. Are you having us on?

what on earth makes you think the boss will be like that?

If this guy is a high flyer he obviously wanted the best person for the job. If your DF proves himself who knows what the future holds.

nabster - the boss has a terrible reputation in his home country! He works with three females who from what df has said sound terrifying and i just don't see why MY fiance should have to go to all this trouble for work - it's a property deal - they haven't bought him body and soul!!

what an appalling attitude to work you have he could be being made redundant, be pleased for him and grow up!

i was trying to be nice but fgs grow up

he isn't been asked to skin babies

do you work?

professional, responsible people will work through issues at work - if your DF has an issue, then he could raise it through the proper channels

you sound outraged on his behalf for reasons which are very unclear?

my DH works ridiculous hours and is away on and off - tis part and parcel of life, especially at the moment