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Original poster

to think my cousin is a knob?

28 replies

suwoo · 21/02/2009 16:32

We were having a daft phone conversation and she was making a silly statement that I should lie about something to DD (aged 7). I said I never lie to my children and she said not even when she says 'Whats that thing between daddy's legs?'

I just snorted and said DD is very aware of body parts and their medical names and uses. I mentioned that she knows a penis,vulva, vagina and ovaries along with heart, lungs and veins etc.

Cousin then said 'oh you're weird, you're going to make her grow up into a lesbian' WTF!!

At that point I said I had to go and removed myself from the conversation.

What a ridiculously small minded and pathetic view point, yes???????

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Hassled · 21/02/2009 16:37

YANBU. She's a fool.

dittany · 21/02/2009 16:38

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Tidey · 21/02/2009 16:40

Eh? What an extremely strange thing to say. Why would anyone think that knowing the names of body parts would have any effect on someone's sexuality?

SparkyFartDust · 21/02/2009 16:41

yep, sounds like a penis (note my use of correct terminology!)

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suwoo · 21/02/2009 16:43

I think she was outraged that DD knew of a vulva......she should come on MN. I know not everyone agrees with kids knowing 'stuff', but I've had one baby and am pg with another and these questions do come up. I answer them honestly and suitably. God knows what she would do- tell her DD the stork comes probably.

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piscesmoon · 21/02/2009 16:52

Very strange! YANBU.

screamingabdab · 21/02/2009 16:53

YANBU
Cousin uncomfortable with her own anatomy. Suggest she reads "The Female Eunoch"

ForeverOptimistic · 21/02/2009 16:54

Your cousin sounds a bit thick.

You are definitely not being unreasonable!

stoppinattwo · 21/02/2009 17:01

my DS thought Nanny drove a vulva

stoppinattwo · 21/02/2009 17:02

yanbu btw

beanieb · 21/02/2009 17:03

what's wrong with being a lesbian anyway? - cousin is clearly an idiot!

diedandgonetodevon · 21/02/2009 17:06

YANBU- better than giving it some silly name or lying about what a penis is!

Children should know what parts of the body are.

Original poster
suwoo · 21/02/2009 17:10

Yeah, exactly beanie, so what if she is a lesbian and so what if she knows what an area of her own physical anatomy is called!

Yeah, think cousin is a bit thick small town minded.

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HecateQueenOfGhosts · 21/02/2009 17:12

I don't understand her reasoning. Seriously baffled. If your child knows the correct terms for body parts, this will affect their sexuality as adults.

I don't get it.

BenFMsmum · 21/02/2009 17:15

Sounds like your dd is older than your cousin?? No??

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suwoo · 21/02/2009 17:17

Nope, I don't get it either. Cousin is 32

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BenFMsmum · 21/02/2009 17:24

32??!! I don't get it either!! YANBU!!

NoBiggy · 21/02/2009 17:48

So what lie were you supposed to tell about what daddy has between his legs???

Better a lesbian than daft, anyway.

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 21/02/2009 17:51

I didn't mean 'affect' I meant determine.

'affect', reading it back, sounds wrong, and a bit negative.

TrillianAstra · 21/02/2009 17:52

She sounds very immature and rather dim.

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suwoo · 21/02/2009 18:53

Will I get a unanimous YANBU I wonder? Or will some weirdo one be along in a minute?

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LynetteScavo · 21/02/2009 18:55

Well, of course YANBU - but then a friend of DH asked us if we were worried he might grow up to be gay becuase he let him play with a dolls pram.

DH replied "No, he's my son"

LaDiDaDi · 21/02/2009 19:01

YANBU!

What are you supposed to say Daddy has between his legs?

pointydog · 21/02/2009 19:05

erm, I'd take your cousin's rep[ly as some sort of silly jokey comment.

I'd shrug it off. Wouldn't make me cross or necessarily think he was a nob.

Yurtgirl · 21/02/2009 19:07

yanbu

Has your cousin got children of her own? I ask because most of my friends who have no children are very ignorant about parenting (even those who are primary teachers!0

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