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Well I am, but dh is being SUCH a prima donna about having the snip

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mrsflowerpot · 20/02/2009 18:52

He's booked in for it next week, and honestly, the moping around is driving me loopy. I know he's worried about it, I know it's an unpleasant thing to have to have done, I know he's likely to be in a bit of pain and of course that's not something to be relished.

But FFS, I have had TWO caesareans that I have made less fuss about. And HE is the one that really really doesn't want more children. So I would like him to shut up now, please, or I will run out of sympathy before he has the op and he will get no tlc afterwards.

There, feel better now, can go and be nice to him again.

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TrillianAstra · 20/02/2009 18:53

Isn't MN useful?

Homebird8 · 20/02/2009 18:55

Did he expect sex too soon after your C section?

spudmasher · 20/02/2009 18:55

Sit him down and calmly tell him you don't want him to have it done. You would much rather use condoms for the rest of your fertile lives or use the withdrawal method.
He will soon become placid.

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mrsflowerpot · 20/02/2009 18:57

lol

bless him, he is such a wuss, that's the problem.
I did try to tell him it was nothing compared to what happened to the dog when he was done, and at least dh doesn't have to wear the big collar, but that didn't go down very well.

God I will have to make very sure I log out of MN tonight so he doesn't see this!

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racmac · 20/02/2009 19:53

Be grateful he is agreeing to have it done - Im still working on my dh lol

PuppyMonkey · 20/02/2009 19:57

My dp is a total wuss, but he had it done and was surprisingly un-wussy in the end. I was quite proud of him!

Wait til they tell him about the 25 ejaculations he's got to have before they know he's all clear.... We're on about number 20 now...

cmotdibbler · 20/02/2009 20:01

My friends DP was mithering about it. She started telling him that she was starting to feel a bit broody, and after all going from 3 to 4 wouldn't be that bad..... He stopped moaning and went to the snip appointment like a lamb

catMandu · 20/02/2009 20:02

My dh went to the pub after having the snip, so it's not that bad.

ABetaDad · 20/02/2009 20:09

mrsflowerpot - bloke I know had a vasectomy party to celebrate afterwards.

Could you offer that as a consolation prize to cheer him up? Might take his mind off things.

Isaidno · 20/02/2009 20:13

My DH had the snip about 12 weeks ago. They had trouble locating the right tubes to cut so had to give him a general anaesthetic and be "a little rough."
He had the following week off work with excessive bruising and swelling.
He had the next week off because he got an infection.
He returned to work, then about 3 weeks ago the left testicle swelled up and became painful.
He had a week off work diagnosed with orchitis (another infection.)
The swelling did not subside; he had a scan and the problem is a hyperseal - where the fluid membrane around the testicle is not being reabsorbed into the body, so more fluid keeps going in, but none comes out. It continued to grow... 2 more weeks off week while he was referred to a specialist.

He is having a op on Monday, under general anaesthetic again, to cut open the testicle, fix the blockage and stitch it all back up, internal and external stitches. 2 more weeks off work for recovery.

So, whatever you do for your dh, don't let him read this post!!!!

I was very unsympathetic about his wussiness, but my sympathy has now been tested to the limit.

Pan · 20/02/2009 20:34

oh tell him to get over himself, the wimp.

drlove8 · 20/02/2009 20:46

tell him he has a choice, snip or father a least six more kids!- you wont see him for dust.... he'll be off looking for a scalpel to diy!

Technofairy · 20/02/2009 20:50

Oh mrsflowerpot you have made me laugh so much.

Wouldn't it be fab if they did have to wear a big plastic collar for a week like cats/dogs when they have the snip??

The blokes I work with talk quite openly about their 'procedures' and there seems to be a strange amount of macho posturing about who suffered most. 'Well mine swelled up to the size of an orange/grapefruit/melon' or 'my bruising was from my nipples to my knees.' Sad, the lot of them!

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mrsflowerpot · 20/02/2009 21:06

oh isaidno, that sounds awful, your poor dh. (I think even I would manage to summon up some sympathy if that happened though.) Hope he's on the mend soon.

Poor dh, I feel a bit bad now, he's really nervous about it which is fair enough. (I still think the dog has been braver though .)

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ABetaDad · 20/02/2009 21:14

Isaidno - that sounds awful. I am feeling a bit rough myself after reading that. I do hope your DH is going to be OK.

Your sympathy deficit reminds me of my own dear wife who 'nursed me' after my gall bladder op.

Lets put it this way - she didn't really nurse me back to health, she just issued me with an order to get better as she was tired of me.

Isaidno · 20/02/2009 21:23

He will be fine in a couple more weeks, but I do feel kinda bad that I wasn't more sympathetic in the beginning.
Now I am just desperate to get him back to work and out from under my feet

ABetaDad · 20/02/2009 21:29

Isaidno - I am looking at your name and reading your posts and I am getting the feeling you and my wife might get on ever so well but not in a way I would enjoy.

NorthernLurker · 20/02/2009 21:35

Isaidno - that is terrible! I must show your post to my dh. He didn't have too great a time but nothing compared to that horror! Having had three (three! count em'!) episiotmomys and a (minor) pph and thrown up for 27 months and had masitits and a post childbirth infection - I felt a little pain on his part was a just and fair exchange

Sidge · 20/02/2009 21:36

My DH has had his re-do today.

That's right, a re-do. He had it done 2 years ago and it didn't work, so finally he went in again and had it done under general anaesthetic.

He's currently sitting in the dining room eating pizza, reading his book and hasn't needed any painkillers yet!

Your DH will be fine - tell him you'll kiss it better

NorthernLurker · 20/02/2009 21:37

Tsk - 'mastitis' not masitits! I suppose it wasn't too far out though...

BigGitDad · 20/02/2009 21:39

Honestly it's a piece of piss! I had it done and was up and about bathing the kids and puting them to bed when I got home. It is a bit sore but if nothing goes wrong believe me a kick in the bollocks is much more painful.

expatinscotland · 20/02/2009 21:43

Buy him a box of condoms and tell him it's those or no nookie.

magentadreamer · 20/02/2009 21:45

Years ago I used to help in the snip clinics - I used to tell male friends I warmed the bricks One poor bloke turned up ashen and looked about to pass out. As I was chatting to him I decided to be nice kind nurse and offered him a GA next week. Poor bloke thinly smiled and said he daren't as his MIL was in reception waiting for him!

ABetaDad · 20/02/2009 21:51

Sidge - someone on another 'snip' thread told me the other day that it worked 99% of the time.

Is a redo a common thing?

How do you know you need a redo?

Sidge · 20/02/2009 21:58

I don't think it's a common problem, ABetaDad. I did feel sorry for him last time TBH, his nads looked like aubergines, he got a post-op infection and then found out it hadn't worked. Bummer.

We found out when he eventually got around to providing his first sample (he'd been away a lot so hadn't quite got round to doing it). The pathologist phoned him back the very next morning and said he had a lovely healthy normal sample of swimmers and she hoped his wife was still using contraception!

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