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To say this to the waiter ?

40 replies

Katiestar · 14/02/2009 21:12

This afternoon we went into town to do some shopping .We were all hungry and went into a well known restaurant chain.We ordered a starters main courses and drinks.
When the starters came my soup was missing but the waiter shot off.When he came to clear the plates and ask if everything was ok.I said yes apart from I haven't had my soup
'Oh,' he said 'Didn't you want it at the same time as your main course '
'No i replied 'that is why it is called a starter.'
My Ds1 was very shocked and said I had embarassed him by being so rude.Was I ?

OP posts:
noonki · 14/02/2009 21:15

yabu - he made a mistake and you talked to him like a child.

I was a waitress for many years it is a tough job.

He probably spat in it

only joking (I think)

I never did...but I know those that have!

Tiramissu · 14/02/2009 21:15

Not rude.

I would say something similar.

Children are always 'embarassed' when at restaurant with parents

Rachmumoftwo · 14/02/2009 21:16

Possibly a little rude, but understandably so in the circumstances. Rather witty too, I think. The kind of comment I sometimes think of after the event and wish I had said.

SalmonintheLiffey · 14/02/2009 21:18

I would have just said 'cancel the soup, it's too late now'. And checked they';d definitely removed it from the bill.

SlartyBartFast · 14/02/2009 21:20

rude and condescending, i think

Coldtits · 14/02/2009 21:21

Hmm.

maybe you were and maybe you weren't, either way, if there is the slightest chance he will remember you, NEVER eat there again.

southeastastra · 14/02/2009 21:22

it's a funny comeback

lottiejenkins · 14/02/2009 21:23

Sorry if i am stating the obvious here but why didnt you get up and go after the waiter and ask for your soup, instead of waiting till it was too late when he came to clear??

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 14/02/2009 21:24

Well, I hope you enjoyed the rest of your meal. I promise you he spat in it!

southeastastra · 14/02/2009 21:33

ew he would spit in it for that comment? ew sickos

EustaciaVye · 14/02/2009 21:38

Depends on your tone when you said it.

southeastastra · 14/02/2009 21:39

it's all in the timing

HeadFairy · 14/02/2009 21:42

As eustacia says, depends on your tone. A voice dripping with sarcasm may well have resulted in more than spit in your soup

ChocFudgeCake · 14/02/2009 21:42

Yes, I heard the spitting tales. I think it's a little rude unless you said it with a big and sweet smile. But why should you when you were hungry.

KingCanuteIAm · 14/02/2009 21:43

Why on earth did you not just get someone's attention and ask for the soup? You just sat and watched the others eat so you could be all "martyr" at the poor waiter when it was too late? How pathetic!

If you had been a customer of mine I would have thought you a seriously disturbed person, talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face.

I assume your waiter was human and so makes mistakes like any other human - and, above all, deserves treating like a human (not a dumb skivvy)

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 14/02/2009 21:43

I don't think YABU. A waiter should know that soup doesn't accompany a main meal, so a little sarcasm isn't entirely unjustified in this case!

I hope it was removed from your bill.

Where were you eating btw?

EustaciaVye · 14/02/2009 21:44

FWIW, My waiter today FORGOT to add the two DDs meals. All 4 adults meals came and he then said "Oh No, I forgot their meals, and he ran to the kitchen". We asked for some bread & butter to keep them going and didnt make a fuss as they were very busy and mistakes happen but I was so relieved the DDs didnt play up.

Janos · 15/02/2009 09:50

Hmmm...the waiter was rude and unpleasant and the service bad generally then YANBU.

If he just made a mistake then YABU.

I'm inclined to be sympatheic towards wait staff because it's a very hard and thankless job.

However, if service is bad then you are right to complain.

Janos · 15/02/2009 09:51

Ssorry..in my first sentence that should be 'if the waiter'.

shootfromthehip · 15/02/2009 09:54

It was a bit sarky and so YABU IMO.

Lulumama · 15/02/2009 09:57

you should have asked for your soup and demonstrated better manners and respect in front of your children.

YABU

ThePgHedgeWitchIsCrankyBeware · 15/02/2009 10:10

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DollyMessiter · 15/02/2009 10:17

Odd that it didn't occur to you to ask for your soup.

My MIL would have behaved similarly, but she would also have used the time that everyone else was eating their starters to moan about the fact that hers hadn't arrived.

She is very passive aggressive.

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 15/02/2009 18:29

Katiestar, you are not being unreasonable - I'd have said much the same myself. If I'm paying good money (and quite possibly an "optional" service charge of 10% or more) for a meal, I expect the fuckwit waiter to know that soup is a starter, and that it should be served with the other starters. It is not my place to go chasing after waitstaff asking where my food is.

Yes, I've been a waitress, barstaff etc - and even at 17 I didn't think soup should arrive at the same time as the main courses.

Podrick · 15/02/2009 18:33

This was a very dim comment from your waiter

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