To say this to the waiter ?

[Katiestar]

This afternoon we went into town to do some shopping .We were all hungry and went into a well known restaurant chain.We ordered a starters main courses and drinks.
When the starters came my soup was missing but the waiter shot off.When he came to clear the plates and ask if everything was ok.I said yes apart from I haven't had my soup
'Oh,' he said 'Didn't you want it at the same time as your main course '
'No i replied 'that is why it is called a starter.'
My Ds1 was very shocked and said I had embarassed him by being so rude.Was I ?

Nice lesson to the kids, no?

Oh let's not be polite and ask where my meal is, let's just wait and be rude to the staff....

Yabu , your comment was a bit obvious really, and slightly impolite. Mistakes can happen.

ROFL@ "didn't you want your soup with your main course then".

ie he forgot. And was taking the pee.

By the sound of it katie was unable to attract his attention to ask for the soup while the others had their starter.

YANBU.

Would it be a nicer lesson for the kids if she just sat in silence and possibly allowed herself to be ripped off (for the price of the soup) by an incompetent waiter? Does anyone on this thread actually believe the soup should have been served at the same time as the mains?

Yes you were rude, but it was a silly question for the waiter to ask. Who has their soup with their mains? Especially as the rest of the table had had starters.

Mistakes do happen yes but in this curcumstance, the waiter didn't use his common sense and so i think yanbu.

well, what was he like in general? belligerent? in which case, not rude. otherwise awful, muriel!

Can't believe Katie's getting a hard time here. Waiter made a pretty big mistake. Should have been bloody apologetic about it, not asking stupid questions.

Nothing rude about what she said IMO assuming the tone wasn't incredibly hostile.

TBH I think the response "didn't you want your soup with your main course then" is pretty rude and so katie's response was fine.

Stupid question from the waiter who should have known that a starter doesn't get served with the main course.

Stupid retort from a customer who should have simply called the waiter back when she didn't get her soup with the rest of the starters.

I'd have said the same - it wasnt as if he just apologised, he actually said he thought you wanted it with your main meal..........WTF?!

I don't think you were being rude, although I guess your manner might have been. I think the waiter was out of order for not apologizing about the soup not coming. Unless it was a soup and sandwich combo I guess, it is normal for soup to be a starter and he presumably forgot. I'm not surprised if you were snappy though - hunger puts me in a very bad mood!

It's not unusual for everything not to arrive at the table at the same moment though, I expect Katie thought he would be back fairly soon with her soup, so didn't make an initial fuss. I don't think as a customer you should feel it is your job to chase after waiters.

YANBU, presumably the soup was ordered from the starters menu?

I would not have waited for him to come back to clear the plates before asking after it though, I'm not that patient.

It wasn't a chinese restaurant was it? My friends from Hong Kong usually get 'starters' served first, but then soup comes as a 'main' with the other dishes.

I would not have made the 'sarky' comment if he had just apologised .I did say it with a smile and a giggle though. As others have said what is a parent for,if not to embarass their teenage children ?