to be really annoyed with my DH this morning?

[IwishIwasmoreorganised]

DH works 30 miles away (along all main roads once you're out of our side street) and has a 4x4. He leaves for work at 7am.

This morning we woke to a couple of inches of snow - DH goes off to work as usual, not a mention of getting ds1 to school.

DS1's school is 1 1/2 miles from home down 2 very steep hills - it's open today. I drive a little peugeot.

DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 8 months. I cleared the car and got them all togged up, negotiated my way to school with several very big skids on the way (luckily there was no-one else oming!) only to find 1 other child in DS's class! So I slowly made my way home (a very long way round as the council have now closed the steep roads!). I'm still shaking from the journey!

Got a text from DH while I was dropping off DS1 saying he'd got to work fine and the roads were all clear!!!

So AIBU to be annoyed that he disappeared off as usual without us knowing if school was open, helping me to clear the car, or taking ds to school in what is a far more suitable car for the conditions?

a double yabu

Oh FGS.

My DH left for work at 7 am. I am very lucky, I don't need to leave until 8 am. I have to drop kids off and I usually take the smaller car because I have a shorter commute.

If you can't manage to get the kids up and to school yourself, god help you if you ever try to manage a job too.

Sorry, but you asked

Just read the whole thread. We might not have cured the OP of extreme preciousness but we've certainly cured her of ever posting in AIBU again ...

I thought this thread would have been left by now!!

Violethill - who said I don't work???

Quattrocento - I think it might have spurred me on to post in AIBU again - some opinions are very interesting! And btw, I've never been called precious before - I think I rather like it

I wishIwasmoreorganised - you may well do some sort of work, but your post made it clear that your DH was leaving for work at 7am, while your normal routine seems to be the school run (you mentioned taking your child actually to school, not childcare, and finding one other child there, so I'm guessing this is not particularly early, maybe quarter to 9-ish).

It just seems that if this is the normal routine, it's entirely reasonable that you should get the kids up and do the school run.

My DH leaves an hour earlier than I do, so I see the home stuff as my responsibility...I used to leave earlier so he did it then... seems logical to me.

Well you are right -I'm on maternity leave atm. It was just the "god help you if you ever try to manage a job too" that I was a bit at.

I will be going back to work in May and am looking forward to the challenge of getting us all out of the house by 7.15 with 2 different drop offs for the boys and being in work by 8.15

Ah right. IME, maternity leave is always a bit of a bugger because you're not in your normal routine.

While I was on maternity leave, it was the only time my eldest dd was late for school! I just couldnt seem to get my act together with a newborn, toddler and school age child! I think there's also a subconscious feeling that school isn't quite the same as a job.. you know you're not going to get sacked for not getting your child to school on time! Yet strangely, once my maternity leave finished, I was perfectly able to do the nursery drop off, CM drop off for eldest and get myself into work at a ridiculously early hour, no problem.

You'll be the same come May! And of course as you'll be leaving at practically the same time as your DH,it'll be entirely reasonable that he helps with getting the kids ready.

Thanks for the kind words of encouragement!

I wish I drive a small car too and DH did just the same so NO YANBU.

My DH cam in at 3 am ast night, his alarm at 6 am woke me up and then he got ready (dress down friday clothes aswell [smirk as what he put on didnt match]) and went off to catch the bus leaving me after not much sleep to get me and DS ready to go out and didnt even clear car of snow or wonder if I would be ok to get off the estate after being snowed in. But we off anyway but thats not the point.

It must be catching because everyone I speak to has no ggod to say about their DH/DP at moment!

YABU you were perfectly capable of driving to the school and you did a marvelous job of dribing back again. You drove in a sensible maner and got your dc to school.

Why exactly did you need any help - you did all of this yourself.

Well done