I go back to work in April when DS will be 9 months old. I will be working 4 days a week, the plan at the moment is DS will go to nursery for 3 days a week and with my Mum for 1 day a week. I want her to take care of him in our house in a familiar environment and where all his stuff is (highchair, cot, pram etc) plus it is far easier for mine and DH's commute to work and would save us loads of time.
My problem is that I don't want her to drive anywhere with him e.g. into town or to her friends house as I want to know where he is plus my Mum isn't the most confident driver. I don't mind if she takes him out in his buggy, there are loads of nice parks and playgroups in our area and it isn't a rough estate. I also don't want her taking him to her house as my brother still lives at home and doesn't work and smokes, he smokes outside but I don't want him breathing his nasty ciggy breath all over him. He has no respect for my Mum and if he goes on at her enough she will let him take DS out for a walk and I know he will be round his mates with DS.
It also concerns me that she will feed him loads of crap like chocolate and biscuits at her house, even if I tell her not to I reckon she would do it and not tell me.
Would it be unreasonable of me to ask her to look after him at our house, to not drive anywhere with him and to lay down the law with regards to feeding him sweets and rubbish? I am not a complete freak (although reading my post back I think some of you may disagree) I don't mind him having an occasional treat, I just remember spending most of my childhood in dentist chairs having fillings and extractions cos my parents gave me sweets all the time and didn't make me brush twice a day.