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Was being shown around a nursery with a view to finding a place for DD when I go back to work. All looked great until right at the end, just before we left. Returned to the baby room and the manager giving the guided tour said to a little boy toddling around in his vest - 'Hey! Woo-woo, got yer sexy legs out!'.

as I said, just not what you say to a child IMO. or am i getting all het up over nothing?...

I think this is what happens when you put people too immature in charge of settings which are highly influential.
I've heard some horrific things said in nurseries, from you dirty little boy to a 3 year old with wet trousers, to wolf whistling at babies in a tutu.
I would be unlikely use a nursery again it's too hit and miss, can somebody recommend one to you OP or a childminder/nanny ?

V odd. YANBU.

If someone came up to me and said "what a sexy little girl" about my 18mo I would think they had a screw loose frankly.

Unless you want this kind of joke and language used around your child, I would find somebody a bit more grown up to take care of your child.
Bear in mind this is the manager, the most educated/qualified/mature person in the nursery, the ones the others will look to for guidance, if she's coming out with jokes like this god knows what the rest are like.

UGH I hate this, where I live I am recently hearing a lot of parents calling their children sexy, or geek. WHY?

It is innapropriate, and as HeCate said, innacurate use of the english language - using words incorrectly.

Was the nursery nice in other ways?

You would think a nursery manager would be aware parents may find this innapropriate.

Just out of interest, how do you feel about other adults saying "oh here is your boyfriend/girlfriend" to your DC when a child of the opposite sex arrives.

I genuinely dont mind this (but DD is only 1) but it happens a lot!!

yanbu - just shows a certain stupidness but no bad intent imho

Moue of distaste but not a deal breaker imo

yabu

So the problem is that the nursery nurse is common, but is definitely not a paedo.

Up to you how much that bothers you.

Oh FFS!!! what is wrong with that? The woman was joking! Like a three year old is going to know what sexy is. Its just a word - i often describe my dog as sexy, horses as sexy, but i certainly don't mean it sexUALLY!! PC gone mad i tells ya

To be honest I think it's a bit OTT to be offended/upset by this. Seems similar to saying "Woo hoo! do your funky thing!" if he was dancing... a throwaway comment, no more.

Don't get me wrong I am absolutely against the sexualising of children, (cannot bear heels/make-up on kids and kiddie pageants are my pet hate!) - but in this case I really don't think this is what was happening at all.

I don't think it is appropriate language so it would completely put me off. (It isn't that I think that she meant anything at all by it or that I am very PC, I just don't think it appropriate).

LEM Sorry, you call your horses and dogs sexy? Gosh, how strange. Or maybe I've just led too sheltered a life.

I think describing anything of your own as "sexy" is kind of ok (your horses etc). But this child was not the womans own child, its just crass and in bad taste.

I have never found a horse sexy

LEM, it's good to love your pets, but not, love your pets...

just kiddin

this is just normal banter in non-middle-class-mummy-land

in middle-class-mummy-land of course they should be ignoring the children to fill in Development Milestone forms

swings and roundabouts

p.s. I would worry about someone talking about their sexy dog

unless he was all dressed up in a dinner jacket or something

That lad in Equs found horses sexy.

lol mp

sexy horse

I would be a bit put out, as its a little inappropriate, so YANBU

Lucyellensmummy - how do you mean it then? Serious question, not looking for a scrap!! - but because I am curious to understand.

Given that the word sexy means "arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest"

If you use a word that means sexually desirable, but you say that when you say it, it doesn't mean sexually desirable, then you are using the wrong word, surely? What other meaning is there for it? I don't understand. seriously don't understand. I just want to stand in the middle of the room and yell

IT MEEEEEEEEEEEANS SEXUALLY DESIRABLE

I think this is more a pedant thing really

You just can't go around deciding that a word that has a clear meaning, doesn't have that meaning. When you call your child sexy, what do you mean? Help me out what other words, that mean the same thing to you, could you also use? (so that I can relate them and get what you mean)