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You are ALREADY Skinny - I'm just trying to be - stop stealing my thunder..

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:01

I have a really good, and really beautiful best friend...she is stunning, blonde, gorgeous, slim...lets call her Tallullah (although her name is Kerry)

She is, of course as tends to be the case, unhappy with what everyone else perceives to be near perfection.

We are on the same small emailing list, of our friends, it just makes chatting to get through the day easier...

Today I told the girls that I am half a pound off having lost 6 stone - I'm on a very very strict diet, I have a lot of weight to lose and my girls have supported me amazingly. Last night at my weigh in I discovered that I am half a pound away from having lost 6 stone, and that half pound is really rankling me.....you know, I feel if I had just done my exercise dvd one more time, or worn less heavy underwear or something...

Anyway...as usual, my girls have been brilliantly supportive.....but then up jumps Miss Perfection to say that she has now lost some weight and she is really pleased with herself...

Which is brilliant - as I say, I'm very good friends with her and when she is happy I'm happy...but she was already gorgeous....I'm not gorgeous at all....I'm sure she isn't intentionally thunderstealing though...

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hannahlouhoo · 20/01/2009 15:05

what a self centered witch, i think thats horrid.

has she been supportive of your weight loss?

Well done you i bet you look amazing, and feel it too! how long have you been trying to lose weight?

yanbu

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:08

Ah no = she has been incredibly supportive and is wonderful about it....

I'm sure I'm being very silly - after all, we were discussing weight loss...it was fairly reasonable to her to join in with her story

I've been on a very low calorie diet since the end of July - so its something like 175 days so far

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claw3 · 20/01/2009 15:13

If she is usually supportive and as you said yourself she wasnt trying to steal your thunder, why are you upset with her?

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:14

...because even if she wasn't intentionally stealing my thunder, my thunder is still missing in action...

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LeQueen · 20/01/2009 15:16

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claw3 · 20/01/2009 15:17

I doubt your thunder has been stolen, a lost pound, isnt quite the same as losing 6 stones!

NimChimpsky · 20/01/2009 15:22

snort @ let's call her Tallulah (although her name's Kerry)

Well done you. What a wonderful thing you are achieving.

I can understand why you feel a little irritated but let it go for now.

Which exercise dvd do you do, out of interest?

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:23

Hi LeQueen

I'm sorry, I'm a bit lost...

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:24

Hi Claw3

Thanks - I'm sure she looks gorgeous, its just she looks gorgeous ANYWAY....

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:25

Hi NimChimpsky

I have 2 different Davina ones - one with 3 works outs on it lasting half an hour and 1 with 5 20 minute ones...

We aren't advised to do too much vigourous exercise on my diet programme because we don't have very many calories to draw on for energy but I do try and do it 3 times a week

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FiteFuaite · 20/01/2009 15:34

Well done Bathsheba on your loss,that is amazing

If Tallulah/Kerry really is your best friend then she probably isn't trying to thundersteal,just unthinking and a tad self-centered,perhaps.

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:36

Hi FiteFuaite

Thank you

Oh she is an angel really...

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NimChimpsky · 20/01/2009 15:38

Fab. I have all of the Davina ones . Was going to recommend them to you if you hadn't tried them, but would be preaching to the converted. Her new one's also good if you fancy it.

Well done again.

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 15:42

Hi again NimChimpsky

Great minds...!!!

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Themasterandmargaritas · 20/01/2009 15:44

Wow what a weight loss that is fantastic.

I'm sure your friend didn't intentionally try to upset you. Maybe she just thinks that now you are skinny (because if you have lost 6 stone you must be) perhaps she is not as skinny as she thought she was and perhaps it was time for her to shed a pound or two. Take it as a compliment, she is imitating you.

Nim - did someone steal your thunder too?

claw3 · 20/01/2009 15:52

Your friend sounds very insecure, perhaps she needs your support, more than you do hers!!

sparklesandwine · 20/01/2009 15:59

buy her a chocolate cake

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 16:30

Hi Themasterandmargaritas - I'm sure it was just that we were already talking about weight loss...

Hi Claw3 - I promise I'll give the gorgeous trollope lots of support...

And Sparklesandwine - When I next see her in May, I promise I will..!!!!!!!

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ithinkimtallandblonde · 20/01/2009 16:44

Being beautiful doesn't make you secure, i bet you have loads more confidence than her. She probably doesn't see herself the way you see her at all.
Well done on the weightloss 6 stone is amazing.

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Bathsheba · 20/01/2009 17:08

Hi ithinkimtallandblonde

I'm sure you are right - now if we could just convince her she is as gorgeous as she actually is...all would be fine and I'd get my thunder back..!

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elle23 · 20/01/2009 19:36

did anyone else read what i read? she totally stole yr thunder! or she's a self-centered witch who can't bear anyone else to have done something better than her.
well done by the way, totally amazing

OrmIrian · 20/01/2009 19:39

6 stone F*ck! That's a small child.

Well done you. Tell her to p* off with her 'some weight'. Huh!

OchAyeballsintheSky · 20/01/2009 19:39

Here, have your thunder back! I'm amazed (and very pleased for you, even though you don't know me from Adam!). That's an amazing weight loss, well done you. I have about that much to lose and I can't get going on any diet so I am totally in awe.

AliceTheCamelHasGotTheHump · 20/01/2009 19:42

But from her point of view she really isn't perfect and gorgeous. She thinks, no, she knows that she is flawed, and it bothers her just as much as your less than perfect bits bother you. I know this because my two best friends are utterly gorgeous. Sickeningly gorgeous. Painfully gorgeous. They really don't think they are though. And they agonise just as much over their thighs as I do over mine. And they try one 18 outfits trying before going to the pub in jeans and a t-shirt. They are convinced that the spot on their chin that no one else can see is a glowing, flashing, whooping beacon that will stop traffic and land planes. Just like we all do.

Divineintervention · 20/01/2009 19:45

I would have thought people very near to perfection have many insecurities about getting to perfect. She is probably much more judged on her beauty and not so much on her personality and so has to maintain her beauty.
Can't tell you how fat I thought I was at 6.5 stones, 34,22,34....Oh to be that now!!