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To think this is a really crap way to carry your newborn and toddler around?

52 replies

Norfolkbumpkin · 14/01/2009 21:31

Whilst shooping in town this afternoon I came across a young mum walking towards me pushing a toddler in a stroller. I did a double take and gasped because hooked over one of the handlebars of the stroller was the handle of a first stage carseat with quite a young baby asleep in it. AIBU to think this is such a dumb idea? The pavements were busy with shoppers and all I could think about was this poor baby being knocked about.

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uberalice · 14/01/2009 21:33

Perhaps she just put the carseat there for a minute and wasn't actually carrying the baby round all day like that. But I agree that it's not ideal.

naturalbornmum · 14/01/2009 22:29

Does'nt sound ideal. I was in the supermarket yesterday and a mum had her newborn in a sling (nothing worng with that) except the baby was literally hanging out - almsot bending backwards - it looked so uncomfy. Judgey, judgey.

mamadiva · 14/01/2009 22:39

Was it a travel system? Mabe the toddler just got really tired and had to go in pushchair so she was heading to her car or bus with car seat.

differentID · 14/01/2009 22:49

I work in a place that sells pushchairs- trust me it gets worse.

wabbit · 14/01/2009 22:50

sounds like she was doing her best at the time to me... baby-filled carriers are a bugger to hold by your side as too wide for arm to 'hang'

give the poor 'young' mother a break and put your judgey finger away until you spot something genuinely shite

Desiderata · 14/01/2009 22:53

Why is it a dumb idea?

How is she supposed to push a pram and carry a baby bucket at the same time? Ever tried pushing a pram one-handed?

Hey! Here's a good idea. Perhaps she shouldn't go out at all.

differentID · 14/01/2009 22:54

what's wrong with a carrier?

Desiderata · 14/01/2009 22:55

What's a carrier?

SlartyBartFast · 14/01/2009 22:55

how very dare the young mother

differentID · 14/01/2009 22:57

sling type thingy?

SlartyBartFast · 14/01/2009 22:57

presumably she had come in a car and was just going shopping?
perhaps the car seat was going to sit in a shopping trolley and the stroller folded up and placed in the trolley,
or maybe she was on her way home having parked the car.
who knows?

naturalbornmum · 14/01/2009 22:59

As I said nothing wrong with a sling - I have used them myself.

Desiderata · 14/01/2009 23:00

Either way, Norfolk, if that's all you've got to worry about, you're a very lucky woman.

Enjoy your 'shooping.'

Desiderata · 14/01/2009 23:01

Of course, because with a sling, there's no chance your baby will get knocked about by all those nasty pedestrians, is there?

Unlike a hard, protected baby bucket.

unavailable · 14/01/2009 23:02

I've not been in the "young mum" stage for some years but .... GOSH, have things got madly judgey out there?

Norfolk - were you really "outraged"? If so, I presume you did more than post on here.

differentID · 14/01/2009 23:03

Desi- she had a pushchair in front of her. The baby's at less risk in one of those than dangling like a shopping bag over the handle of a stroller!

Ashantai · 14/01/2009 23:06

I agree that the baby would be safer in a sling rather than on the handles of a stroller, and a lot lighter too! Those infant carriers weigh a bleedin ton, and thats without the baby inside!

LynetteScavo · 14/01/2009 23:08

I'd be more worried about the pushchiar falling backward than the baby being knocked about.

These young mums, really; they should make sure they can afford a P&T before they get themselves pregnant for a 2nd time!

KerryMumbles · 14/01/2009 23:09

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solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain · 14/01/2009 23:15

OK hands up who never had that moment of hanging one more bag of shopping on the back of the pushchair and having it tip over backwards to the outrage of the child sitting in it?

mamadiva · 14/01/2009 23:18

As I said I reckon that toddler was tired and she was just having to try and manage the pushchair with toddler in and carry seat.

But fact is we will never know and personally I dont see what the YOUNG mother has to do with anythiing I have seen older parents doing much much worse.

morocco · 14/01/2009 23:21

does that really happen solidgold? mine only tips over when child jumps out annoyingly, sending all shopping flying. i tell them off - pram is not to rest their legs, they are working as a counterweight

butterscotch · 14/01/2009 23:25

solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain omg I must do that at least once a month if not more often however I like others don't see what the whole "YOUNG" thing has to do with it! I'm not a young mum, however my mum had me at 17 and has so much common sense its scary!

MsHighwater · 14/01/2009 23:27

solidgold, my hand is up.

I see we are judging the judgers these days.

wabbit · 15/01/2009 04:02

MsHighwater... too bloody right, they need judging with their big pointy fingers and disapproving looks

anyway, I've got the self appointed office of being JudgeJudgerExtarordinaire it's a gift