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to not want to get up at 6.30am???

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Nemoandthefishes · 14/01/2009 11:13

dh has started setting his alarm fro 6.30am so he can hit snooze until 7.15am when he has to get up. I get up around 7.15am as thats plenty of time for me to get the trio ready for school run etc. I am feeling more and more resentful to dh for setting his alarm[that I bought him for xmas as it is a ipod dock] even though he doesnt have to get up until 45mins after it goes off.

OP posts:
stickybeaker · 14/01/2009 11:16

It's very bad for your body to 'snooze'. Look at some research online and inform him of the damage he's doing to himself.

littleboyblue · 14/01/2009 11:18

YANBU. My dp does the same (or tries to) but gets a swift elbow in his back and a shove out of bed if the elbow wasn't enough. I told dp to stop being such a selfish bastard and if it continued he could sleep on the sofa.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 14/01/2009 11:18

I do this to dh though I only do it because he annoys the hell out of me and I am grumpy as it is on a morning.

I intend to get up at 6:30 because it gives me time to have a coffe and wake up a bit before my usual fights with dd1 over school/breakfast/shoes/tights.......

However when my alarm goes off and I immediately get "turn that bloody thing off I am trying to sleep. Not all of us have to get up at daft o clock in the morning etc etc" I get v v annoyed and my thinking is fine then twat I'll keep us both awake.

Childish I know, but at 6:30am when he is moaning because he wants to stay asleep when I have to get up and his snoriong has kept me awake half the night. It feels good.

VinegarTits · 14/01/2009 11:18

I couldnt live without a snooze button, i am the same as your DH, but i dont wake anyone else up but me, so he probably is a bit selfish

TheInvisibleManDidIt · 14/01/2009 11:24

I use my snooze for 10 mins. It's on my mobile and gives a soft beep and vibrates.

Dh is like yours..uses snooze for up to an hour. I wouldn't mind if it was like mine, a wee beep, but he has it send on the most annoying cockeral crowing sound .

Can you change the snooze/ alarm settings tonight before you go to bed without him knowing. Then when the alarm goes off at 0715, do a 'surprised' oh your alarms gone off late, you better get up now!!

nappyaddict · 14/01/2009 11:25

Why is snooze bad for you?

Dropdeadfred · 14/01/2009 11:27

have you asked him not to?

IAmTheNewQueenOfMN · 14/01/2009 11:28

oh is snoozing not helping me in the morning then?

I am having an awful time ettin out of bed at the mo

I have just ordered (and it has come ) a sunrise simulator alarm clock

it has a snooze function should I train myself not to use it?

Kelix · 14/01/2009 11:28

My DP does this, but I dont even hear the alarm on the first...... or second.... or third.... or fourth.... or tenth time!!

I am immune to the sound of the stupid thing

If DD so much as breaths heavily tho thats another matter!

YANBU IMO. If it wakes you (and him) unnecassarily I dont see the point. Surely an extra 45 minutes sleep would be better than being woke up every 8 or 9 minutes?

Tell him there is medical research that proves it is one of the main contributions to say... women going off sex or... women murderings thier other half in their sleep or something That may put him off lol

littleducks · 14/01/2009 11:32

dh does the snooze for an hour thing, i hate it too!

cheesesarnie · 14/01/2009 11:35

i do it for 5 minutes ,then 10.then i get up but dh already gone to work by then.
ds2 needs a snooze button.at 6.30 am this morning he stood next to my bed shouting pops mummy,i need pops.

Libralovesbiscuits1975 · 14/01/2009 11:40

DH does the snooze thing as well, which drives me mad when I don't have to get up until later. However have you actually mentioned to him that it drives you potty?

happywomble · 14/01/2009 12:13

YANBU - my DHs alarm goes off even earlier at 5:50. The irritating thing is he doesn't hear it and so I am the one that gets woken up and I end up poking him till he turns it off, and then I get frustrated as it takes him 10 mins to get out of bed!

45 mins snooze is much too long..your DH needs to set the alarm later and get up straight away!

stickybeaker · 14/01/2009 12:20

Snooze is bad for you because your body isn't asleep and it isn't awake. Our bodies have sleep cycles (the same as babies) and they link in together without us really waking up but snoozing (i.e waking every 10 mins) lets your body think it's going back to sleep and then shocks it awake again, and so it goes on.... There's no physical benefit to it, people just do it for psychological reasons.

expatinscotland · 14/01/2009 12:23

he'd be sleeping on the sofa. and anyone who did that because they thought it was funny would be sleeping in another abode altogether.

usedtoreadbooks · 14/01/2009 12:42

I sympathise with this - I have done it to DP in the past (before DD). But - worse, I think - DP insists on radio or audiobook to help him go to sleep, and if he wakes during the night, which isn't unusual. So I am often woken by voices at 3am while he falls asleep. Argh.

onepieceofbrusselssprout · 14/01/2009 12:48

YANBU.

I had this discussion with my dp (twas a fairly loud discussion ) We resolved the snooze button issue.

I now have the (also very irritating) problem that most mornings he gets up just before the alarm goes off. (the baby has already woken us). He then hops in the shower, and the alarm rings 2 minutes later. I know that it isn't a great distance across a double bed, over a snoozing baby to the far side of the bedside table but it is irritating!Then 2 minutes after that his back up mobile alarm goes off.

nappyaddict · 14/01/2009 15:42

So if i press the snooze button and go back to sleep for 15 mins and then press it again and go back for another 15 mins my body isn't actually getting those 2 x 15 minutes of sleep? It might aswell be awake?

stickybeaker · 14/01/2009 16:03

Well it would be better just to let your body stay asleep for an extra 30 mins instead. That's the ideal. Otherise yes, be awake.

nappyaddict · 14/01/2009 16:10

So really if someone else wakes you up 30 mins before you need to get up it is better for your body to get up rather than go back to sleep for 30 mins?

nappyaddict · 14/01/2009 16:21

this is interesting apparently more than 9 hours sleep is bad for you.

claireybrations · 14/01/2009 16:28

DH used to do the same but I'd have to prod him to turn the bloody thing off. One day I went a bit mental about it and he has stopped doing it now

stickybeaker · 14/01/2009 16:28

It would depend on whether that 30 mins is a restful one. I'd say 2 lots of 15 mins snoozes is worse than the other options.

Mercy · 14/01/2009 16:33

Dh has to get up very early in the morning and has an alarm clock and the radio to wake him up. I think he has it on snooze for about 15/20 mins which is perfectly reasonable imo - it doesn't bother me either (I get up at 6/30/6.45 anyway)

Joolyjoolyjoo · 14/01/2009 16:41

Oh dear- I have had this arguement with Dh on many occasions- but in our case I am the snooze queen . He gets up before me 5 days out of 7, but I sometimes forget to turn my alarm off at weekends, and I have an uncanny ability to hit the snooze button in my sleep (honestly!) It drives him crazy- he is a really light sleeper and wakes with a start, while I hit the dreaded button and slumber on

I know I am in the wrong. DH says "Why can't you just set the alarm for the time you want to get up??!!", but I hate hate hate getting up in the mornings, regardless of what time I go to bed, so I find it almost impossible to just spring out of bed- I need the gradual coming to that the snooze button allows me! If i set it for the time I needed to get up, I would no doubt hit the snooze button in my sleep anyway, and the morning would then become even more frantic and angst-ridden than it is already!