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To think DH should apologise in person?

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MegaPhone · 12/01/2009 23:56

I was on the phone to my grandfather earlier. He's in his mid-70s and its not often we talk. He is not well and has not been well for some time, so much wrong with him.

Anyway I was chatting away and then I said "sorry Grandad, I'll be 2 seconds, I just need to turn the pan off as it's boiling over" and he said "ok".

So I ran off to the kitchen, sorted the pan, went to pick the phone up and DH walked past and belched really loudly right next to the phone. Not a normal burp though, it was very OTT and vulgar.

My grandad didn't say anything but BLATENTLY heard it and I think he thought I'd done it as I picked the phone up because he said "anyway, I'll let you get off now and see to your dinner" and started trying to get off the phone. I was too embarrassed to mention it so he probably got off the phone and said to his wife "you should have heard what megaphone just did down the phone!" etc

I'm annoyed at DH and want him to apologise, he thinks its funny and that I'm taking it too seriously. God knows what my grandad thinks now

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BlackEyedDogstar · 13/01/2009 00:15

You think DH should apologise to your grandad in person? Now, I understand your embarrassment with the revolting belch but do you not think you might heap further embarrassment onto the situation by making your DH apologise?

As it is now your DGD might be assuming you had dropped the phone/the dog had come in and farted/the television was on too loud? What can you say to him other than.. 'DGD I didn't belch on the phone the other day!' - which seems a bit daft to me.

He perhaps genuinely worried that he called you when making tea, so hurried the call. Forget about it, imo.

Uriel · 13/01/2009 00:16

I'd leave it.

Perhaps your grandfather didn't even hear it?

Ashantai · 13/01/2009 00:23

My OH's family do this all the time even tho they all know that i detest it so much that i want to rip their heads off!

If my OH ever did it, i'd slap him, and he knows it!. Its the height of bad manners and imo akin to gobbing on the street, but i'm ranting

Even tho it disgusts me to the core, i think the time has passed for you to do anything about this, so i'd avoid drawing any more attention to it.

VinegarTits · 13/01/2009 00:24

yabu

solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain · 13/01/2009 00:26

Oh sure, make him apologise. Then make a nice placard with 'I am vile scum, I belch in the house' and insist he wears it for a week. Then remind him of his sin on every family occasion for the next 20 years.
Then be surprised when he runs for the hills.

HolyGuacamole · 13/01/2009 00:37

I'm sorry but I laughed at that post so hard. I mean, yeah, it is rude but come on? He is in his own house and does a hugeoid burp, a show-burp. Why don't you just make light of it, it's not that bad? Personally, I wouldn't have been able to go back on the phone for laughing.

MadamDeathstare · 13/01/2009 00:44

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HecateQueenOfGhosts · 13/01/2009 09:27

No I don't.

you want your husband to go round to your grandad's house, knock on the door and say "Hi. I'm afraid I burped as I was walking past the phone the other day. You were on the line and MegaPhone fears you think it was her. It was me. I am sorry about it and in future I shall check nobody is on the phone before I burp."

I'm not being sarky (honest! ) but don't you see how daft that would be?

Sometimes people burp, sometimes they fart.

Sometimes they get sick and it fountains all over you in bed at 2am!

Tis part of the joy of co-habiting

LucyEllensmummy · 13/01/2009 09:53
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Littlefish · 13/01/2009 09:55

Ha ha ha. Are you serious?

No, of course he shouldn't apologise in person. You're being completely over the top!

BlueSapphire77 · 13/01/2009 10:01

This has happened to me and i thought i was the only one lol

I dropped the phone because i was laughing so much and my mum (on other end) obviously thought it was me, fortunately she's not a prude
Even now i haven't put her straight on it because i only have to think about it and start that shaking with laughter thing
Your grandad is a man hun..no doubt at some time in his life he has farted and held your nans head under the duvet, or something, this grossness isn't just restricted to the younger generation of male lol.

I agree with MadameDeathStare.. let DH live

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MegaPhone · 13/01/2009 13:43

No he actually directed it down the phone on purpose.

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pamelat · 13/01/2009 13:56

He did it on purpose??! How odd. Did he know it was your grandad? Does he dislike him?

MadamDeathstare · 13/01/2009 14:37

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ilovetochat · 13/01/2009 14:42

i think it's absolutely hilarious!

dittany · 13/01/2009 14:45

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MegaPhone · 13/01/2009 14:49

He knew it was my grandad and he doesn't dislike him, he just knew full well I'd be embarrassed by it.

He doed do it quite a lot, he did it whilst I was on the phone to my niece once, mid sentance - picture the conversation =

me - "so, how are you liking uni then?"
niece - "oh it's great, on wednesday I have...
dh - "RAAAAOOOOW!!!"
niece - "....erm....sorry, I've forgotten what I was saying...erm...
me - "wednesday..."
niece - "oh yes, wednesday I have an interview..." etc etc

She thought it was me that had done it whilst she was mid sentance! looking back, that one WAS funny but I thought it was a bit disrespectful to do it whilst my grandad was on the phone.

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dittany · 13/01/2009 14:54

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squeaver · 13/01/2009 14:55

Sorry, is your husband 8 years old?

Agree with dittany's approach.

OrmIrian · 13/01/2009 14:58

Yeah what dittany said. Sorry but I am a bit humourless when it comes to bodily functions of that sort. I still fail to laugh when DH farts and then pulls the duvet over my head It's not funny and it shows a lack of respect if he knows it would embarrass you.

Don't make him apologise but let him know that he is a arse !

dittany · 13/01/2009 15:04

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poshwellies · 13/01/2009 15:07

me - "so, how are you liking uni then?"
niece - "oh it's great, on wednesday I have...
dh - "RAAAAOOOOW!!!"

Sorry,but your description more than the actual act made me giggle

Simplysally · 13/01/2009 15:10

Sorry but this thread nearly made me rotfl literally.

I would have had to ring back to explain as I would have been unable to speak at the time. Your dh does sound a bit childish if this is a regular habit though.

Get a portable handset and take it in the bedroom with you next time.

dsrplus8 · 13/01/2009 15:16

i burp on purpose down the phone when i answer it and its the exh on the other end.i do this because 1) he hates it and thinks its disgusting 2)i am childish and immature and enjoy repulsing exh. 3) i had to endure him picking his nose all the time(even when we went t posh resturant for dinner for my birthday)so this is payback 4) i have 3 brothers who taught me well! 5) unfortunatly DH is lso repulsed if he catches me! lolds2 and ds3 are well impressed, ds1 can burp the alphabet, he taught ds3 the alphabet(adhd),proud as his teachers couldnt manage it so fast!

HolyGuacamole · 13/01/2009 16:03

"ds1 can burp the alphabet"

ROFL, nearly splattered my cup of tea over the keyboard