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I suspect it was a bit low?

45 replies

StoopingLow · 08/01/2009 21:02

Bit of background - was with my ex for around 2 years. In that time he was a complete prat, endless empty promises, pathetically immature and spoilt brat behaviour, he was rude to me, patronised me, tried to show me up all the time, looked down on me as though he was doing me a favour being with me at all - He was a pig. And he was mean to my kids verbally and everytime I tried to break up with him, he turned the tears on before making out that I was being selfish and saying shit like "it's not just up to you where we go from here, I have a say too and I don't want it to end now" as if I should just put up and shut up.

Anyway one thing he told me about while we were together was that the lads at work call him "Big Gay " because they all reckoned he was camp and a stereotype 'closet gay'. It used to really wind him up and he was VERY sensitive to it.

Two days ago I received a text message from him saying that he had remembered lending me money last year and he has decided on a deadline to have it back by. The 'deadline' is the 14th Jan and he actually wrote "like it or not". I just wanted to scream "you complete twat!" at him, he winds me up so much.

I then see on an internet forum that he wrote "I will be getting some money on the 14th Jan so me and the missus will be going to so and so"

I was still fuming this morning. I told my friend and he joked "get a bloke to ring his work and say its his boyfriend". We had a good laugh at the thought until I said "actually, would YOU do it?" (friend is male) he jumped at the chance and so phoned his work and said

"Hello, is there please?"
they said "yes, who is it please?"
friend replied "its Tony, his boyfriend" but in a VERY sincere tone.

The bloke kind of spluttered "what?? who is it sorry?" and so friend did a fake 'sigh' and repeated "its his boyfriend, Tony. Just tell him to phone me back when he's free please". The bloke literally giggled as he replaced the handset and I know full well the lads at work will have given him HELL all day (and probably will continue to do so for weeks, if not months).

I thought it was hilarious at first, the stupid twat thinks he's gods gift and can treat people however he likes because he's a spoilt brat that is always used to getting his own way.

However when friend went home I couldn't help thinking "actually, that was quite low" and now I feel a bit shit. I KNOW he deserved it but was it really too awful?

I know with all recent activity I'll get accussed of being a troll but I'm not, just name changing for this because if you all say I was out of order, I don't want my real name tarnished with it

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Ineedmorechocolatenow · 08/01/2009 21:05

LMAO! - but it was a bit low. Mind you, he sounds a bit of a low-life so it might suit his character.....

Technofairy · 08/01/2009 21:09

Nah, he sounds like a twat. Don't give it another thought. He probably won't believe there ever was a phone call anyway and that it's just the lads at work continuing their ribbing.

And er what happens exactly if you don't pay by the 14th? What does like it or not mean? Can you pay it by then?

ThePregnantHedgeWitch · 08/01/2009 21:10

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TheCrackFox · 08/01/2009 21:10

Low, but funny.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 08/01/2009 21:13

I like it.

tubeofcanesten · 08/01/2009 21:17

Was low but nothing compared to all the foul behaviour directed towards you - this is how life balances. I would pay hime moeny back late too vito whereve it is he thinks hes going bigheaded immature twunt

StoopingLow · 08/01/2009 21:18

Thank god for that, I thought everyone would reply with "how pathetic, grow up" etc

I'm used to his pathetic threats. He's the type that will say "Work will give me a payrise by December, or else they'll wish they'd never heard my name" and everyone around him just thinks "what a twat"

I think if I don't hit the deadline, he might ... text me again! shit, hope that doesn't happen lol

Such an idiot though, I'm more annoyed with myself for putting up with him so long.

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Leeka · 08/01/2009 21:21

So do you owe him money? If so, perhaps he's that really being that out of order?

Leeka · 08/01/2009 21:22

oops - i meant, perhaps he's not really being that out of order .

Technofairy · 08/01/2009 21:24

So you do you reckon they left a post it note on his desk or passed the message on in person?

Does your mate take on commission jobs??

prettybutterfly · 08/01/2009 21:29

Low, maybe, but intensely gratifying and therefore OK!

Just don't do it again;)

MamaMaiasaura · 08/01/2009 21:38

very very funny - i think youshould reveal your name as i think it is definately not a tarnishable crime

StoopingLow · 08/01/2009 21:38

No I don't owe him money really. He insisted on giving me money for something last year which I kept saying no to. But being the way he is he "insisted" and said it didn't matter about paying it back.

However, when I finished with him he said "right fine, but you can forget about me writing that money off!" lol So now he's "decided" on a deadline just out of the blue and I will pay it by then "Like it or not" - like hell I will.

I reckoned they followed him around work saying "arn't you going to phone your boyfriend back yet, he'll be all upset wondering why you're giving him the silent treatment" etc and they'll go on...and on...and on....

I won't need to do it again, I'll get about a years worth out of this one

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ellenjames · 08/01/2009 21:45

That made me laugh, sorry but he sounds like a right tit! Don't pay him back if the money was a gift at the time.

yousaidit · 08/01/2009 21:49

YANBU, ansd i'd remind him the money was orig a gift so he can stick repayment up his...

liahgen · 08/01/2009 21:51

excellent

solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain · 08/01/2009 21:51

If he said it was a gift at the time, he will not be able to make you pay it even if he takes you to court, because there will be no proof at all that it was, as he claims, a loan not a gift. But whatever you do, don't send him any texts, emails that suggest in any way you think/thought of the money as a loan as he might just use that as evidence. If you reply, just do so along the lines of 'Look gayboyXP you said that money was a gift, not a loan, and I can't help that you have changed your mind.'

alicet · 08/01/2009 21:58

pmsl at this - OK so it was a bit childish but f*cking funny all the same and just my humour!!! Agree you shouldn't worry about needing to name change!

Good advice from solidgold though - don't say anythign in texts / emails to imply money was ever anything but a gift - which it was.

prettybutterfly · 08/01/2009 21:59

lol @ gayboy.

J2O · 08/01/2009 22:04

hahaha i like it! Reminds me of the time i rubbed chilli powder and fresh chillis into the crotch of a cheating ex ps jeans who didn't ever wear underwear Also, don't pay him back to fund his night out with his latest squeeze!

ChirpyGirl · 08/01/2009 22:21

Not low, inspired and bloody funny!

cherrymonster · 08/01/2009 22:37

genius! sheer genius!!!

PoloPlayingMummy · 08/01/2009 22:42

Low but really satisfying!

herbietea · 08/01/2009 22:47

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nbee84 · 08/01/2009 23:11

Actually LOL. Hubby wondered why and came for a read and he lol too!!

Excellent one!

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