to get pissed off when my mum says my dd is "getting" lovely?

[drpumpkinbread]

she is not "getting" lovely, she is lovely, and always has been

To you, yes. Every baby is lovely though. But obviously not as lovely as my own

well what should i say to my mother next time shes says it then?

i've already tried "getting" lovely!?, she is lovely, and always has been.

but it hasn't worked and she is still doing it.

She just means that she's changing and growing up. She doesn't mean that she isn't lovely already!

she does need to stop saying this though.
as it really annoying

As long as you know she is lovely then i wouldn't worry

FWIW The first thing my mum said when she saw dd was "Oh what a funny little thing"

Perhaps next time your mum says it, you could say...'and nana/granny is getting old..'

Say it a few times and she might get the hint...

Take the long view.

I recently looked at baby pictures of my adored DS and although at the time he never had one single day when he was not gorgeous and in absolute perfect looks (never winston churchill-like, always like a delicate little elfin creature really with the most beautiful face), when I looked at these pictures, inexplicably (it must have been a bad camera) there was a fat little winston churchill look-a-like grinning out at me

Can you not just jokingly challenge her 'Hey you! What do you mean GETTING lovely, you cheeky mare?'

Just keep on using a few stock phases every time she says it, until she gets the message.

deemented if i said that she would not link the two.
needs to be more direct

soapbox i've done that, but she is still doing it.

Honestly,I wouldn't worry

If dd is lovely happy and healthy,then that is good surely

I don't suppose she meant it nastily,I mean calling someone "Lovely" is,well,lovely

but it's really pissing me off.
i try saying over and over 'Hey you! What do you mean GETTING lovely, you cheeky mare?'

but its not working and i fear i will let rip one of these days

I think you need to consider getting a sense of humour! It is clearly your mum's opinion that your DD is improving in looks. It's hardly worth any angst; it is incredibly petty.

well petty or not i need to make it clear to her not to do it.

can't really see why you think it's about looks though

maybe because you haven't explained any further?

It should be possible to say "Mum don't say that it really upsets me" or am I missing something?

i will end up saying, why do you think she was lovely before then

oh talk about reading something into nowt.your mum made an innocuous comment you are squawking.

do calm down dear

I sincerely think you should turn your intelligence to something more than this.

I am going to!

no it was not one comment, she always says it

you really need to unclench and step off the me me plinth

Well, I've had people telling me that dd2 is "getting" really cute, but to be honest it is water off a duck's back to me. I KNOW she is gorgeous. I'd rather they were telling me that than "oh, she USED to be so cute!"

My MIL constantly tells me that dd1 is "one of us" and that dd2 and ds "Och- they're right you ones!" but I try to let it wash over me. I know she doesn't really mean anything nasty by it, and I'm sure your mum doesn't either!

Mums say things like this, it's probably just a habit and she doesn't even realise she is saying it half the time, let alone how upset you are, as she is cooing over your (always lovely) dd! Some people phrase remarks like this when what they are really saying/mean is getting even more lovely.

It's on a similar vein to when I have people say to me 'you look well today'. I assume they just mean my top suits me or they like my makeup or whatever, not that I have been looking really unwell for the past year (I hope not anyway!)

My dd2 really was an ugly pug when she was born. People have only just started calling her cute and she is 19 months old! FWIW, I think she gets lovlier every day

It's better than her saying: "She's turning into a proper minger isn't she?!" Surely?