to get pissed off when my mum says my dd is "getting" lovely?

[drpumpkinbread]

she is not "getting" lovely, she is lovely, and always has been

not sure what the problem is, it's probably just her way of saying she is taking on her ownpersonality and isnt just "the baby" anymore have you not got anything important to worry about? if not, then count yourself lucky

thanks madame thats just th sort of reply i need!

think you are over-reacting
i have been known to say this about my kids, not in a bad way, just that they are growing up and turning from being pretty into complete stunners (they take after me)
its not being mean or nasty at all, you are taking it a bit thick

when DD was born we called her George Dawes from shooting stars "hes a baby, hes a baby" then Hulk Hogan cos all her hair was at the back. Now she is a beautiful 12 year old, but she was ugly when she was a baby!

It's a compliment and you're overreacting.

When people say 'oh your new haircut suits you' they're not saying 'you looked like a bucket of piss beforehand' are they? Or 'you're looking well' isn't a euphemism for 'usually you look like a sack of shit'.

Concentrate on the fact that she's calling her lovely. I'd understand if she was saying your dd was "getting" (I think she means becoming) hideous.

There are bigger things to worry about in this life than a grandparent complimenting a grandchild.

Seems to me the same as saying "she's getting lovelier/prettier everyday". Hardly a nasty back handed swipe.

Easy to read in to comments mother's make, I do it all the time with mine. She's there, she's complementing your daughter, some of us would do anything for this to be frank.

Pseudocreme and lotster - precisely. Just what I said earlier

This is something I probably do! By saying that, I mean they're even lovelier / cuter or whatever than before - however great they were. Kind of just loving someone more and more and more.

She's probably just similarly stupid, but my guess would be it's supposed to be a compliment.

extremely unreasonable

would be pleased if my parents showed even a flicker of interest in my children

pull self together etc

well, I think some of you are going way ott saying it's extremely unreasonable

I can understand you finding that upsetting, especially if you keep saying something! Maybe you need to be direct, as someone said - just say "It really upsets me when you say that."

I think some of the responses have been a bit harsh, to be honest! We are all upset by different things.

xx

After reading some threads on here I get frightened to make any comment! People read so much into an innocent comment-you really have to walk on egg shells! Of course your Mum didn't mean she wasn't lovely before-all she means is that she is getting to an age that she can have a real relationship with her-not everyone is terribly keen on babies.

I don't think YABU in not wanting her to say it, however I am sure she doesn't mean that your DD isn't already lovely, just that she gets even more so.

I live a long way away from my family, and quite often when I'm telling them about DS I will say " he's getting really lovely now" but to be honest, until now, never really thought it could sound like he wasn't in the first place. I just really do think he gets lovelier every day!

Aargghh I ramble so much.... Just wanted to say I'm sure your mum means no offence

thankyou