To have misgivings about lending my wedding dress to my sister?

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Am I being silly here?

DH and I got married nearly 2 years ago and paid for most stuff ourselves, including my dress.

My sister is getting married and her DP's family are going to pay for the reception. She's told me she wants to save money, which I can understand, but to achieve this she wants to borrow my wedding dress! I'm a bit taller than her but we're roughly the same size so it may well fit.

I guess, selfishly, I feel that I want my dress to be just mine, and it will look weird when my parents have our wedding photos up with us in the same dress.

The other part of me thinks I might jsut be being a bit precious and bridezilla about it though.

WHat do you think? I haven't given her an answer yet.

I'm with the YANBU vote here.

My first reaction was that it would be lovely if someone liked my dress enough to want to borrow it for their own special day, but then I know I would just spend the whole time worrying about it being damaged.

Your wedding dress is all the memories from your wedding day in a way that nothing else (even the photos) can be, IMO.

Good luck with deciding!

YANBU.

I would happily lend most of my possessions, but not anything I would be truly gutted if it were damaged.

There are loads of inexpensive wedding dresses around. If she's astute she will have realised that unless you shout "Yes! Of course!" straight away, you probably mean no.

Its your special dress...I can understand

YABU.

But from previous experience I should add that my Wedding Dress Appreciation gene is entirely missing. I just don't understand it at all. 'Tis just a dress, non?

I'm not married but I wouldn't want to lend my dress either (I'd rather buy someone whatever it is of mine they want then let mine go out on loan after some experiences). I'd offer to help her rent a dress if she wants to save money or find a clever person to make her one to her own pattern.

I'd have felt a bit odd lending my dress to my sister - but the question didn't arise so I didn't need to think about it more/

I don't think that i would be happy in lending my dress even though i am not likely to wear it again. I would happily lend my veil, tiara or shoes but not the dress itself.

Actually i couldn't do it, because i would spend the entire day following her round to make sure that she didn't spill anything on it or damage it.....

Also, how do you feel about your sister? Do you feel that she always gets what she wants without really having to work/save for something, so by lending her your dress she hasn't had to skrimp and save or search high and low for it.

YABU.

When do you intend to wear it again?
Would you rather see your sister scrabble around for money and buy a dress that isn't her 'dream dress' just so you can keep yours?

And also, nobody will be looking so closely at either set of wedding pictures to even particularly notice or care that the dress is the same.

Everything about weddings is a mahoosive big deal to the bride but [whisper it quietly] nobody else cares.

YANBU. As others have said a wedding dress is a very personal thing especially if you spent ages finding it.

If it is a 50's prom dress (presumably therefore not long) then its not beyond the possibilities that you might wear it again anyway is it?

I have offered to friends and my sis to borrow my veil but I wouldn't lend my dress. It was a beautiful ivory silk dress with pink lilies painted on it so really individual and striking. Sometime when I can bear it I am going to detach the bodice to wear as a top and get the flowers on the skirt framed into a picture so that I can appreciate it every day! Just can't bear to butcher it yet though...