to not want dh to drink as much as he does?

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Would just like some input really,how much do u or ur partners drink in a week? My dh drinks every weekend and has 4 cans each night? also the same 1 day in the week,he doesnt get violent or anything but does get more stressed easily.Its causing countless arguments but he says he knows his limits. I have family members who were alcoholics and were violent so is this makin it worse on my part?

Count the units. If he's consuming more units per week than he should be, then he's drinking too much. If he isn't, then (as long as it doesn't increase) he's OK.

Do you mean he drinks more than 4 cans every w/end?

well he definitely drinks more than he should units wise,but I just wanted to know in relation to other people. I mean i know a few people who drink more than they should but is it the norm?

yes moon dog he has 4 a night

I mean does he have more than 4 cans of a w/end?

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If it's causing arguments-he's drinking too much,would be costing alot too.

yes 4 on each night of the weekend

Yes, in our culture it is the norm to drink more alcohol than is healthy. Doesn't mean that's good though. And if it's making him stressed and bad tempered, he should just stop.

I've no patience with these people who say they no their limits when their drinking is v. obviously impacting on their normal life. If his DP's stressed about it and he's bad tempered and stressed because of it, then FGS what is so bloody necessary about 4 cans of booze a night?

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Sorry do you mean 4 cans a night plus more at the w/e, or do you just mean 4 cnas at the weekend?

it only causes arguments on my part cos I dont like drinking full stop,so i worry i might be over sensitive with the issue,a lot of my friends partners drink to the same amount so is it just me?

He's drinking roughly 42 units a week.

Mon-how many?
Tues- how many?

and so on

If only 4 cans a night at w/end, can't see it's a big issue.

little jingle bells - only 4 cans a night at the weeken and 4 on one night of the week as he goes out. No extras any other time

oh, I thought it was 4 cans a night through the week and weekend [confuddled].

no poshwellies sorry for confusing u all!!
Do u think I am over reacting a bit then?

So about 16 units a week?

But if it's four cans on Sat, four on Sun and four on, say, Wed, then IMO that's not THAT much

yep thats right

Oh God, that's alright.

Yes its 4 on fri,4 on sat,4 on sun and 4 on weds.

Arrrgh I am bloody oversensitive then arent I!!

My grandad was an alcoholic as is my uncle and dh's mother so I think I just worry!!

If only 16 units a week, that's not above the recommended limits for a man, in fact it's slightly below.

If it makes him stressed though, then it's bad. Still don't see why anyone needs 4 cans rather than 3 if it's going to make them feel stressed the next day. For me, it's not really about units as such, it's about the overall effect on the household. If he feels grumpy and bad tempered the next day, then maybe he should just cut to 3 cans or something.

No its not the next day its sometimes when he has had a drink,but also if he has played on the computer etc so I cant really just say its when he drinks iyswim! we get along fine and are a really happy family but I always have a hang up about this one thing!

He is an adult, he is within the limits and it is his choice. Are you sure he is not getting stressed because you are getting stressed about him drinking?

Em, there is no way in hell that one can = one unit (unless he's drinking very low alcohol lager). Personally I wouldn't worry about his drinking, but if you want to be pedantic about units then he's likely to be consuming about 32, which is a bit over the recommended weekly intake.

(As an example a normal - not a pint - can of Budweiser or Stella has 2.2. units in it, a pint can of Stella would have 2.8 units in it)