to not want dh to drink as much as he does?

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Would just like some input really,how much do u or ur partners drink in a week? My dh drinks every weekend and has 4 cans each night? also the same 1 day in the week,he doesnt get violent or anything but does get more stressed easily.Its causing countless arguments but he says he knows his limits. I have family members who were alcoholics and were violent so is this makin it worse on my part?

agree with nellynaemates
a can of Blackthorn cider is 2.4 units
so 4 x that much one night is way over the daily limit , times that by 4 times a week = too much

My father died two years ago from alcohol abuse so I know what it's like to be anxious around drinkers.

I don't think the issue is ever how many units a person consumes, but why they are drinking 4 nights of the week! To me an alcoholic is someone who NEEDS to drink, be it one glass or a bottle. If alcohol becomes a part of your routine, it's a problem - alcholism is about dependency. I'd ask your husband to stop drinking for one week, promise him that if he can stop for one week you'll stop being so anxious about it. If he is willing to compromise and is able to then there's no problem, if he can't / won't I'd be having serious words!

Alcoholism is a lot more serious than people realise, and what's worse is it's legal - so whilst you may be being oversensitive he's your husband, and you care about him, you are well within your rights to feel upset if his behaviour is causing problems.

What kind of beer is it and how big a can? It could be a lot more than 16 units.

Fhere is more than one unit in a can of beer, So he is drinking to much.

Cans of what? Specify brand if you can.

FWIW if these are typical half-litre cans and it's not Fosters or Carling he's probably what the Govt would class as drinking more than a "heavy" drinker.

Oh I hadn't realised cans are more than 1 unit (not a beer drinker).

If he's drinking 8 units each time he drinks, then he's bingeing each time.

Not a healthy way to consume alcohol.

I also agree it's about dependency. It goes back to the question of why is it so importnat to you that you have those 4 cans of beer on Wednesday/ Saturday. What is that emotional dependence about?

Forget the units. "[He] does get more stressed easily.Its causing countless arguments but he says he knows his limits." There's your drink problem right there. If your drinking costs more than money - think! As they say.