have been married for 5 yrs.(this is the 3rd one) over the last year my husband and i went over a bad patch and last dec. he moved his money to his own bank account. i have continued to keep the house running paying all the bills etc over the last year he has not hardly contributed to anything. A few yrs back we remortgaged and i had a large sum to pay off my bills and with the extra we had we agreed we would pay extra towards his, which didnt happen. We have a house that needs a lot doing to it and i took out a loan to have a room done as it was so badly damp, due to the problems wrong with it it cost me more than i wanted to pay but had to have it done, i have had insulation done to the home as well. He has 2 jobs, i had a 5 day a week job to which i dropped to 4 days to help out a sick family member to which that money makes up the shortfall of my full time job. I am now at the end of my budget and cannot make ends meet anymore all my christmas money to me has gone into the bank to help towards the bills, he keeps telling me that i should not keep shopping on my catalogue, which i do have an account with, but i dont drink or smoke and am continually working for my own job and then helping out my family member. As well another very elderly family member has very little in the way of family and i have ended up with that one too, as they have been really poorly. I would like to add that he has a brand new motorbike and has all the gaming gadgets going and also buys games for those.
Im now thinking that should i be leaving him am i wrong in expecting him to contribute and what can i do about this as i am very very fed up...your responses please Many thanks