To think it is very bad manners of my sister to wear a hat to the table on christmas day?

[spookycharlotte121]

Were going out for a meal as the whole family on christmas day as there will be 10 of us and no one has the space to entertain everyone.
My sister has had a few issues with her hair and as a consiquence it was cut very short. It has not grown back much since the incident so to compensate this she wear hair extensions. Problem is she doesnt do them very well and they look a mess. She cant get them sorted before xmas and is now insisting she is wearing a hat to the table, similar to this one. I think it is really rude to do this especially as we will be out in a resteraunt but she is now say that Im trying to humiliate her.

ROFL

Just keep asking her if it took her long to make santas presents this year, were the reindeer well behaved etc etc

surely if it makes her feel comfortable and less self conscious about her hair then its a good thing?
How are you btw?

Unless she's a mountain goat it's rude. The only acceptable headwear at the table comes in christmas crackers.

oh. Its a joke

at mountain goat

Depends whether you consider her own embarrassment less important than yours?

If it for a reason, rather than just because she is being deliberately uncaring of 'etiquette' then YABU a little bit at least.

oi dont see the problem in a restaurant, not the ideal choice of hat but honestly dont worry about just be glad that she is there

(and save the arguments till you have teens who want o wear inapropriate clothes!)

Oh FFS if the poor woman feels self-conscious about having lost all her hair then let her wear a hat. How would you feel if someone insisted you displayed a scar or a zit, or weren't allowed to wear make-up because they 'thought it was rude'.
Most people in restaurants are going to be far too busy concentrating on their own family meal to worry about what someone else has on her head - and if anyone does comment, they are the rude ones.

buy her a red santa hat. She will fit right in and no one will mind.

Could she be persuaded into wearing a folded bandana or some sort of headband instead? I agree with you that wearing a hat in a restaurant is rude and that one in particular is very ugly (the "c" word comes to mind tbh). Or perhaps, if she really feels self conscious, you could all agree in advance to wear santa hats - that way it is fancy dress not rudeness and your sister won't stand out.

This one looks a bit like a napkin - much more appropriate IMO.

just sit at the other end of the table and pretend you don't know her ...
actually you should all wear one

Aw - I think it's rather cute. Try to think how you'd feel if she had lost her hair through cancer, for instance (I had this experience 10 years ago and it was a choice between looking like Mahatma Ghandi, wearing my itchy wig, or a natty headscarf - I went for the scarf). It's only a little woolly hat, after all, not some great confection that the Queen Mother would have worn, and I think it looks better than the silly paper crowns everyone's supposed to wear.

make it a theme.
Everyone must wear their fav hat

Could you not buy her a wig for christmas?

If she's prepared to wear the Christmas cake then this might be the answer.

Sorry - I'll stop now .

TBH I think it's better you all have a relaxed meal and if that will make her relax then just leave it.

Hassled, where are you finding these hats? I want one !

get her this
sorted

Is the OP serious or not? I am having real difficulty in deciding!

this is my fav

It's not rude for a woman to wear a hat indoors but it is for a man. Hats and bonnets were worn until comparatively indoors because people couldn't wash their hair as frequently as we can. In the war they often wore turbans for this reason.

I suggested a santa hat but thats not cool enough. She is 16 and does things like this to cause arguments and be difficult. I know my grandparents are going to be really angry if she keeps it on at the table.
She doesnt have much hair because she is lazy and didnt wash/brush it for so long that it became matted. my mum described it as a birds nest. I have offered to yake her extensions out and style her 'short' hair for her as its kinda like pinks and with a bit of help it would look cool but she just screams at me.

PMSL at the hat

LOL so it is serious why not get her a nicer hat to wear.

spooky don't worry about it you parents will have to sort it out

PAGWATCH you crack me up I love the turkey hat.