to expect a "friend"..

[honestfriend]

to get her Xmas card to me before the end of December?

Every year for years now, her card arrives after the 25th- often not posted til the end of December- often with the excuse she wanted to include a letter.

I haven't seen her for over 10 years, and although we met at school, I am tempted to take her off my Xmas list next year.

AIBU?

I think so, at least she sends a card......

Yes, the fact she is a tad disorganised about the timing of a christmas card is not a good reason to dump a friend. I'm guessing you just don't want to be bothered with the friendship (if you can call it that after 10 yrs and just christmas cards) anymore.

YABU (about this issue), YANBU about not wanting to send her a christmas card next year.

yabu

plenty of people send cards late. what is the problem?

BUT- she has as much time as me, if not more to get herself organised- it's not as if it's a one-off; this has happened for at least 8 years I reckon - it's as if she thinks Xmas day is a different day to the rest of the population! I wonder if it's just me that gets al ate card, or if she is like that with everyone!

does your name come at the end of the alphabet?

perhaps I am your friend.
time flies in december .
out of interest is it first or second class?

YANBU

Why does it take her a month to write a letter??

Leave her off next year, and if it comes up say you posted one, but it must have got lost

To sidetrack slightly, a "friend" I've known for 15 years addresses my Christmas card to my maiden name.
Wouldn't mind, but she WAS at the wedding

Drives dh bananas

There's late and late surely....I can accept late if posted before the 24th, and 2nd class, but posted on the 28th, 29th??? FFS- what's the point?

or perhaps she waits until she receives yours and it is a Reminder to her!

no way- mine would get to her by the 14/15th.

Maybe (like me) she has decided not to send Christmas cards any more as the whole process is a silly load of pants.

same here puppydrunky.
and then changed her/my mind!

well, sorry, but she does send them- but always a week later than the rest of the world!

no excuse- her kids have left home and she has as much time as anyone.

It's only a blinking card, not the end of the world.

Am baffled by why you are bothered by the timing of a card from someone you haven't made the effort to see for 10 years.

I don't send any cards anymore!

Yes. Perhaps she is a disorganised bananahead like me. But she clearly likes you or she wouldn't bother sending letters and cards. Can't you try and see it as a nice foible of hers instead of getting peeved?

podrick- that's a bit mean- who says I have made no effort to see her?

it's the thought the counts

Podrick...I'm with you there, I dont send any cards anymore, (oh dear, seeing it written down makes it seem sort of scroogy)
I am definitely not scroogy.

honestfriend...I think there are more things to get wound up about than a late xmas card, remember, better late than never.

YABU. It's the thought that counts. So what if it arrives late, does the "Happy New Year" part not count after 25th December?

at least she sends one ! One of my friends sent a round robin text to loads of us yesterday on the basis that she hadn't got her shit together to send any !!

YABU - I'm with Cies