If I went to bed and left DP to put DD to bed when they get in?

[AaliyahsFirstXmas]

Ok so some history.

DP works nights so as a rule NEVER puts DD to bed but stays in bed himself - normally listening to me struggle.
They've gone out today, alot later than he said (2pm) and he said he'd be back in time for Prison Break at 10pm.

I'm ill, I've been tidying all week and really want an early night. I get the feeling he's gonna come home at 10pm pass DD to me and plonk himself in front of the TV while I do the night time routine with a either a grumpy overtired DD or a DD who's had a nap on the hours drive back and be wide awake.

So can I just go to bed and feign deafness when he comes in?

[AaliyahsFirstXmas]

wooden - That's my flaw. I always just give in and do it anyway. lol

[pamelat]

My DH does bath, milk and bed every night. Tonight he is out on an xmas do, I have done it - I am knackered!! But have had DD for the last 12 hours so maybe thats why.

I think that partners who don't "do" bed don't realise how much effort goes in to it.

I normally do all day and tea but will now start offering to do milk and bed occassionally.

[AaliyahsFirstXmas]

Just had a txt to say he's 30 mins away. There goes the plan - YAWN. I'm coughing my guts up here too!!

[EightiesChick]

Quick, get into bed now! There's still time...

[AaliyahsFirstXmas]

I got woke up then DP watched Prison Break while as expected I had to deal with DD. I hadn't eaten all day but he wanted to watch the TV

Nevermind, It's CHRISTMAS EVE

[TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor]

WHAT?!?!?!?!
OMG.

[MrsMagooo]

OMFG!

YANBU by any stretch of the imagination!

[TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor]

I can't believe you let him do this.
You have to put your foot down. NOW.

[2pt4WiseMen]

You're crazy.
If you act like a matyr and do everything for him, even when you feel ill, are tired and havent eaten, while he watched TV then you'll never have an equal or fair relationship.

If you dont make chenges then neither will he and who could blame him when he is getting it so easy with no complaints!

[kslatts]

I can't believe he woke you up and then made you sort your dd out.

If dh came in after a day out with our dd's he would just put them to bed himself, it wouldn't cross his mind to wake me up.

[Lazycow]

Next time leave a big note-

"Have gone to bed as am feelinh rough - DO NOT WAKE ME UP = ON PAIN OF DEATH"

[babylovessanta]

Sorry to say it but I think you quite enjoy the martyr role. If you ARE unhappy do something about it sharpish.