about this invite to go to a party?

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dp got a phonecall at the weekend from his friend's son to say they are arranging a surprise party for him and we were invited, dp said yes we will be there.
dp came off the phone and said they are having a party for X monday at the house (about 30min drive away) and it starts at 8pm so i said we will go.
i said what about dd, dp said she can come too, i said 8pm is too late to go to a party, she is 17 months old, he said we will sort it out, i said how when gps are on holiday, on crutches or in plaster? he said i may have to pop there on my own then?
genuine question, aibu to think we were all invited to a party and it's too late for dd so we all shouldn't go?

we are going jux thanks, she has been to a couple of parties and weddings when younger and could sleep anywhere in a carseat but it's harder when they are older but she may stay awake if it's fun!

I think YABU. If was in your situation I would go and take dd, my dd's have set bedtimes normally, but parties and holidays, etc are different and they are allowed to stay up. If you really don't want to take dd with you then you should let your dp go on his own.

i have already said i'm going and taking dd but i disagree with you kslatts, i still think if it's too late for our dd, not my dd, our dd, then we both shouldn't go and if she gets tired we can both bring her home.
this isn't a close friend of dp, he has seen him twice in 7 years so he hardly knows him anymore. why should the mom always stay at home and the dad go out. aaagh.
happy christmas