To want to slap some sense into a random girl at the bus stop???

[jingleMAMADIVAsbells]

Sorry I know, I know rant but hey it really annoyed me.

Was at the bus station today for a good ten minutes stuck behind 2 girls who looked about 16/17YO and one of them had a baby (she said he was 2 weeks old), in a travel sytem and a really flimsy looking one at that, anyway the baby was crying she ignored him and just carried on talking to her friend 5 minutes latrer by this point baby was wailing and I mean I almost wanted to cry myself it was heartbreaking

So she got up off her arse and just pushed the hood over on the carseat not even speaking to LO then shoved the pram hood over to so it he was basically lying in darkness screaming and she said that'll drown it out he's doing my f*cking head in

Honestly I got on the bus after that but she was sitting on the steps talking to her mates in the freezing cold with LO just shoved in the corner in his pram screaming
I know it wouldn't have helped but I really wanted to slap her. I did make a few commentsnot nastily just trying to be helpful kind of whilst putting it across that she clearly wasnt looking after him.

I said oh I remember when my DS was that small he used to cry all the time when he was hungry or needed lifted up, maybe just try a cuddle (not particularly cheeky IMO.

To this she replied and what he's my kid not yours, I just looked miffed and then her mate told me to fuck off and keep my 'beak' out I just kept my mouth shut as had my 2.5YO with me

Really annoyed me and now Im quite worried about LO. Am I being daft?

Oh dear sorry that was a big rant

Poor baby

I hate seeing that sort of thing

I dunno, it's difficult isn't it. I probably wouldn't have been able to keep my trap shut either.

The sad thing is, that babys life is set on a predictable path. Nothing you say to the mother will change that

Poor baby indeed.

These situations are heartbreaking aren't they? I sometimes wish people had a registration number on them (a bit like cars) so you could report them to social services.

You were wise to pipe down in the circumstances I think though. I both your restraint and attempts to help in a friendly way.

I just feel as though maybe I should have said more but what? There isn't really anything I could do, I mean it hardly warrants as abuse but of course there is the side she could have just been tired out maybe he has been wailing all day and was just trying to calm down by sitting with friends but still.

admire - (missing word)

yadnbu

poor baby

There;s not a lot more you could have said really. I worry that if they get really angry they will take it out on the dc later as well

That didn't really occur to me until I was on my way home and I thought goodness I hope that girl has some sort of support at home for her and LO.

More for LO obviously but hopefully she was having ab ad day and if LO is only 2 weeks old it'll all be new and scary but he needs her or someone to love him, god am being mellow dramatic now just keeps getting to me in the sense of what if...

YANBU. Poor baby

I saw a similar event in home bagains some woman shouted at her baby if you fu**in pull that down again ill punch you you mong -the baby was about 4 months old .

I used to work for the social services and its heartbreaking that these people tret babies like this - my dh has been known to say to me dont say anything fter i had row in morrisons with some woman who had wedged her daughter in the trolley using a tin of pineapple chunks so she couldnt get her legs out......i pulled it free and said in a dont mess with me voice there you go sweetheart i dont think your mummy knew it was there and hurting you

when i read that back the pineapple chunk bit seems far fetched but its true unfortunately!!! i told the woman tht im sure the cctv would have it on film - she left her shopping!

I suppose we can but hope that if the family is 'known' to social services that the LO will get the support it needs.

JollyOld etc - if you used to work in social services, how seriously would they take this type of thing? For example, if you saw something really bad (hitting etc) and had the car number or some identification, would it be worth phoning social services??

It's scary how often we se things in the street and feel that we can't say anything but I just didn't want an argument breaking out infront of my DS and I think it would have upset her DS more too.

I hope they have decent support.

Oh that sounded really selfish

Jingle, I really admire you for saying something (anything). This reminds me of a thread about Karen Matthews when it was reported that some people live in small communities and have a skewed / isolated view of what is and what is nit acceptable behaviour. If people do say something, hopefully it may sink in that their behavious is NOT viewed as acceptable. But I totally understand you not wanting to say more in the circumstances (with DS).

i think we need to be more nosey and proactive,

Sparkly - I was just about to post something similar! A shame we don't all say / do more. It takes a lot of courage to confront these unpleasant and aggressive people, especially if you a 'lone voice'. 'MNers against negelect of dcs in public' - we should all wear a badge for solidarity.

good idea about the badge,
after you

but really some people deserve to be frowned on and not get away with crap parenting.

Sadly I think you would find that the girl's parents have equally bad parenting skills, it just gets carried on to the next generation.