To not want DD's donation of toys to oxfam to be taken by volunteer with words.....

[dilemma456]

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callmeovercautious - what happened? did you just walk out with the bag or did you say anything?

no way aubu!!!!!!

what a rude woman - and what a lesson she just taught your little one!

well, in charity shops you can get all sorts, but that is enither here nor there...however, OP, it's a shame your little girl wasn't given a thank you!
I think it's different when an adult brings whatever in, but if a child parts with their toys, that is such a big thing....
that woman was rude

this is why I freecycle my children's grown out of toys and clothes.

I know they are going to a home where they will be appreciated

my sister is a charity shop manager and she wouldnt allow this. I have to pay the going rate although I get first dibs on things there is no staff discount.
I myself never complain but I agree this is disgusting.
My dd (5) knows about charity and I would have been really cross if someone did this.

I do second what someone else said though that they have special needs helpers and they can be a little lacking in social skills but by the sounds of it she was just a toy grabbing old bint.!!
complain!!!

I once gave some really nice things to a charity shop, and the manager took them, glanced contemptuously through, and said to a volunteer "Take these out to the back"

She was a different race from me, and I think she was a very racist person. Another time, I went there for some blankets, and she tried to sell me one with holes in, with the words "this would go well in your house"

at nighbynight - that is AWFUL!

I used to volunteer in a charity shop when I was a student - now I work Mon-Fri I volunteer elsewhere where I can do evenings, but it was good fun. Volunteers did get "first dibs" but there was a strict policy that the manager or supervisor would price the item first, and someone else put it through the till. Thus avoiding the volunteer-making-off-with-donations-for-nothing appearance!

I hope that I was always properly appreciative when people brought in donations. They didn't have to bring in their mother's much loved nick-nacks after she recently passed away, or their children's outgrown toys, or even just some shoes they bought but never got around to wearing. We might not have been able to sell everything, but even clothes that were bobbled, badly stained or missing buttons were put in bags to sell on to the fabric recycling company and the charity got money for that.

Anyone with a spare morning or afternoon, I really encourage you to see if a local shop could use an extra pair of hands. Without volunteers the shops couldn't keep going, and it's really satisfying to work your way through a giant pile of donations and end up with a neat rail full of priced clothes ready to sell! Plus, as we've established, volunteers get first dibs... just don't forget to make it clear you're going to pay!

How rude

Bless your DD - I would have been crushed for her, the least she deserved was a thank you for her kind efforts!

Good idea phoning Father Christmas

We have lots of charity shops in our village & I gets lots of toys for the DC from there & once they have outgrown them I take them back again!

When I last went with DD I gave her £0.50p (big bucks to a 2 year old) & said she could choose whatever she liked - she chose a Thomas the Tank Engine book, we went to the til where she handed over the book & her £0.50p to which the assistant said 'That books for a boy' in a rather nasty tone

Jackaroo, from your last post, I get your drift now! You mean the judgemental, Hyacinth Bucket type of volunteer who tut under their breath?

Nope, you are right - nothing like my mum thank god. My mum's a saint, bless her. Always goes out of her way to help ALL the customers in the shop find what they want.

When we were kids, we always took our old toys to the local Barnardo's children's home where they were really appreciated. To be honest, as long as they ARE appreciated I don't care where it goes. You could get a bigoted old trout in a charity shop who is rude when you hand stuff over, but you have to remember that the person buying the stuff usually doesn't have much spare cash, and they are usually VERY grateful. As are the people benefitting from the actual charity money raised.

Thinking about your situation, OP, I think I would have shown the rude woman up, even though she said what she said about her grandson having them, by saying very loudly to your daughter "That's SO kind of you, DD, to let the charity shop have your old much-loved toys! The charity will make lots of money from selling them and whoever buys them probably hasn't got much money and so will be really grateful for these toys!"

I'm afraid I agree about saying something to the manager, but only because this is the sort of thing thats puts people off of donating and its a shame cause the people that really need it are the ones that'll miss out.