To be put off by bad English?

[MrsSnape]

I am giving online dating another go. Anyway, one man sent me a short message and he seemed ok. I replied with an equally short message and he then sent me a long email which to be honest, looked like it had been written by a 12 year old.

An example is:

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yeah im good thanx just been sorting chritmas decs out and im knackered lol well wot you been upto what kind of bloke do you go for do you have much planned for weekend wot do you do for work lol look at me with all the questions well ill go now but hope you email back see you

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It really put me off. Am I being a snob? I know my English is far from perfect by the way but I don't know why, this really made me not want to reply anymore.

I am aware I am being "Overly careful" this time due to bad past experiences but would this put anyone else off?

(please don't reply highlighting all the English and grammar mistakes in my message!)

Is he a looker? He could be your bit of rough - you know, a David Beckham type. Just tell him to stay silent when you meet up.

OMFG
Run for the hillls Snape and don't look back.

Personally, I think it's quite shallow.

Perhaps he has a relaxed tone as he didn't realise he was being formally interviewed...

MrsSnape - you are quite right to be put off by bad English. If it matters to you, use it as a criterion for selecting candidates.

We all have things we find repulsive and others we don't care about. There is nothing wrong with that.

It would put me right off!!

Zebraa - Isn't it the language equivalent though of turning up for a first date in filthy jeans and a sweaty t-shirt? He is being interviewed 'cos she's trying to work out whether or not he's worth expending some personal energy and time on.

BTW - YANBU Mrs Snape - did he actually have anything to say about himself (curious now )

I wouldn't reply to a message like that. It would put me right off.

YANBU, he writes like an idiot

elsiepiddock, great minds...

YANBU - this really puts me off as well. There was a guy (an aspiring writer, no less) I dated briefly who used to email me in this manner, and I found it very unattractive. Even when he wrote cute or flirty sentiments, I couldn't help but read them in the same stilted construction in which he had written them. It was a definite passion killer.

He mentioned a bit about his work but to be honest, the email was so difficult to read I just sort of scanned through it. He's also really keen to exchange phone numbers already and meet up etc.

It would definatley put me off!! I use words like wanna, gonna, defo.... but only on things like MSN to my sister, or where i feel i know the person very well.

He sounds really sweet.

Btw STOP the online dating. It is such a minefield! Try an evening class

sweet but actually a bit div, you are right

yanbu

But stop the online thing. You need to meet REAL people, it is so rare to find a decent bloke on a dating site.

I must admit, that would put me off, its barely readable, and text speak is a no no.

What puts me off is the word 'hun'

I was chatting with a guy the other day, he called me hun so i ended the converstaion then deleted him, I dont care if i am shallow, i just cant stand it.

I do an evening karate class but all the blokes are married lol

But MrsSnape, what does he look like?!!!! Shallow as hell, but its christmas..

How old are you? If under 25ish, I'd say, meet him anyway (my sister and her friends all write like this - it makes me shudder but they are university graduates ). Reply in proper English and see if he can write.

Mind you, I like a man who can write well, so I can understand how it would put you off. Would definitely put me off someone my age. And I do know what u mean about how using the odd abbrev. in a grammatical sentence seems different...

I'm almost 28. He is decent looking, looks a bit rough around the edges which is usually the type I go for (can't be doing with clean shaven pretty boys!)

I'd say that if the language he used to have a chat with you, and get to know you put you off then thats a 'sign'... I'm 23 and haven't ever used language like he has done in his message to you!!

Although, if you like the sound of him still, and the look of him them maybe he was trying to 'play it cool' with what he may see as casual chat??

Oh, meet him! But say something jokey about how he needs some full-stops so you can catch your breath.

My spelling and grammar are pretty poor but there is no way in the world I could ever bring myself to date a man who can't even be bothered to write what properly.

dya kno wot i mean ?

Nah, it would put me off too.

Its just so naff.

And the use of 'lol' instead of punctuation is very annoying. If its not funny then why say 'lol'? Its not a bloody full stop, its an overused acronym.

DP lives miles away and we only see him every fortnight at the moment, but we email and tbh if he emailed like that I'd find it a real problem. Luckily he is very funny and articulate.

I'm in two minds...
Short answer is that, yes, it would put me off. But DH is very well spoken, intelligent and polite, but for some reason his written English is just awful.

To be fair, he doesn't do text speak, but he mispells words or leaves them out or doesn't use punctuation properly. I think it is more from laziness...