a bit of background...we are really, really strapped for cash, atm. we have been hit massively by the recession and i have been busting a gut over the past 2 months to adjust to a hugely reduced income. (dh has gone from earning very well to not drawing a salary at all- he's self employed- almost overnight.) i work p/t.
i have been shopping v carefully, cooking from scratch and really trying to be economical.
i went shopping last friday to buy a few xmas treats. then agin on sunday, for day to day groceries. i spent about £60 each time, which included some xmas foodie gifts.
my plan was to do a basic shop for veg and a few nibbles just before xmas, but not to do another big shop.
today, while i was at work, dh decided to go to tesco and spent £90+. i didnt know he was going and he bought alot of the same stuff that we already have.
to be fair, he did by some store cupboard bits that wont perish, but i feel that we need to be budgetting right now, not stock piling!
i bit my tongue when he came home, as i didnt want to start a row, even though i was instantly irritated that he'd been shopping when i've been so recently. it was only when i saw that he'd splashed out on a second xmas present for his dad that my irritation poured out, so to speak.
he was livid with me for not reacting gratefully to his shopping trip. he said that he was trying to be helpful, and that i am controlling, unreasonable etc etc and that all of the things he bought will be used eventually.
admittedly, i do usually choose/ do the shopping. but thats because i have more time and do the cooking. dh spent all that money and the only meals he got were frozen pizzas and pasta and sauce.
he was pretty unpleasant and mean, tbh. really sarcastic and horrid. he then went off to meet friends for a xmas drink, but not before accusing me of hiding his keys
should i have been grateful rather than annoyed? how would you have felt?