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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have got my 360 degree feedback at work and want to stamp my foot like a small child might do

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tumpyfairygodmother · 17/12/2008 20:53

I think I am probably being a bit unreasonable here TBH but I am feeling a little bruised. I asked 12 of my colleagues to fill in a 360 degree feedback questionnaire and I got my results today. Most of it is good but as ever with this sort of thing its the bad bits which are sticking in my mind at the moment. I feel like stamping my foot at them all in true tantrum manner ! as most of them haven't got the guts to ask anyone else what they think of them - never mind have it in written form. AIBU to feel like this?

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tumpyfairygodmother · 17/12/2008 21:54

maybe we need a how bonkers is working in the NHS thread

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beanieb · 17/12/2008 21:58

Is it that they all thought you were often unreasonable?

Seriously though, the reason you get to see it is so you can change those things. you say you expected it, is it fair do you think? Can you change those things? See it as a challenge.

Can understand why it makes you want to stamp your feet though. You'll be fine

VirginBoffinMum · 17/12/2008 22:03

It's not just the NHS. I already have three education degrees and a PGCE, a wealth of published papers in the area of education, and my university has sent me on a mandatory teacher training course which is the most crap thing I have ever attended, and run by non teachers who have no classroom skills.

Part of this feeds into our staff appraisal process and I had to write a candid self-appraisal for the HR file. So I wrote something bland and generic that wouldn't hold me hostage in years to come. I then got an email back telling me off for not taking it seriously.

I ask you.

poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 22:04

are you in the civil service? They were doing 360 feddback a good few years ago. And possibly still are.

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tumpyfairygodmother · 17/12/2008 22:05

I think the essense of it was fair TBH although I think that it could have been written down in a more constructive way. The bottom line is that I invited this feedback so I need to be grown up enough to take the bits that I need to on board.......... however it might just take me a couple of days to be able to read it without wanting to stamp my foot, put my fingers in my ears and sing LA LA LA I can't hear you

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poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 22:05

ok. caught up. nhs

beanieb · 17/12/2008 22:06
Grin
valleysprincess · 17/12/2008 22:24

arrrghhhh! Just tell us what they said about you

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tumpyfairygodmother · 17/12/2008 22:33

really ?
well lets just say that in amongst all the good stuff were such gems as "cocky" "aggresive" "blunt" " brusque" and "heavy handed" ! So the essence of it was that she gets the job done but we don't always like the way she goes about it !

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MrsSchadenfreude · 17/12/2008 22:34

We have this too. At my last 360 degree feedback, the one thing absolutely everyone "strongly agreed" with was that "Mrs Schadenfreude has no difficulty in giving people bad news or putting across a difficult message."

Not entirely sure what that says about me...

I find that sticking fingers in ears and singing loudly and tunelessly works for me for the bits I don't like as well!

valleysprincess · 17/12/2008 22:38

Hey Tumpy! They say the same about me. It's because we intimidate them with our brilliance

Uriel · 17/12/2008 22:39

cocky, aggressive and blunt?

Nothing to worry about there - qualities usually known as confident, assertive and direct!

Technofairy · 17/12/2008 22:42

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poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 22:42

I think we should introduce mn 360 appraisals

FabioHasBirtdaiTiemForCaik · 17/12/2008 22:42

Do you get to know who said what?

poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 22:43

yes, to promote a positive atmosphere at work?

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 22:44

written word is harsher,it has a permanency embedded on brain.just suck it up.move on

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tumpyfairygodmother · 17/12/2008 22:46

I am presenting it out of context as it was given in a report by a facilitator etc etc and I did get chance to talk it through. However once I have got home and started re reading it then its easy for the negative bits to jump put of the page. The suggestion to come back to it in a couple of days is a point well made......

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FabioHasBirtdaiTiemForCaik · 17/12/2008 22:47

yyy mn 360 appraisals

Technofairy · 17/12/2008 22:49

Blimey - you get to know who said what?? Not where I am you don't. The only exception is if you add free text. Clicking on the tick boxes is completely anonymous - as it should be in my opinion as you've a better chance of getting honest feedback.

I've done feedback for 4 of my previous and current managers and I felt able to be honest rather than keep my career prospects in place! I just hope my staff felt the same.......

poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 22:51

yes, Hate would reign over mn after a bloody battle of furiously typed, no-holds-barred 360 appraisals.

So. Who's first

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tumpyfairygodmother · 17/12/2008 22:51

no I don't get to know who said what - that would really undermine the whole process of people feeling able to be honest and open..........

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poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 22:59

can you imagine, though. Everyone will be trying to second guess

dinny · 17/12/2008 22:59

we have this - I think it's really valuable

I did feel slightly indignant at some comments though, it can be a bitter pill to sawllow!

poinsettydog · 17/12/2008 23:04

what?! the concensus is I'm an irritating, trivialising smart-arse who never takes part in the washing up rota?

oo. I wish I being done now