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Original poster

to cancel xmas for son who has damaged DS

33 replies

MikeStand · 17/12/2008 14:40

i feel that way at the moment. He has made a fairly deep scratch on the screen in his frustration and has had it less than a month. Have decided to ban all computer game, Pc use and advent calendar till the end of the week and has to go his room after school and tidy it until bedtime. He is has just turned 11. Is this about right?

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TheFalconInThePearTree · 17/12/2008 14:45

No that's far too extreme imho.

TheFalconInThePearTree · 17/12/2008 14:45

And tidy it until bedtime? Just how messy is his room?

Mumto2littleangels · 17/12/2008 14:46

Hmmm quite alot to take away imo. I agree with the no computer games as that is what he damaged and he needs to learn to look after things. My son is 11 yrs old too and he gets very frustrated if there are too many punishments at once, if you see what I mean.

compo · 17/12/2008 14:46

how many hours does it take to tidy his room?!!

VinegarTitsTheSeasonToBeJolly · 17/12/2008 14:47

Yes YABU to cancel xmas, just take it off him and ban expensive toys until he learns how to look after them

LIZS · 17/12/2008 14:48

take the ds away . dd stabbed ds' ds casing so it has pock marksand hers was taken away for a week. She was only 6 though I'd be worried if my 10yr old had deliberately damaged it. The screens are pretty tough

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MikeStand · 17/12/2008 14:49

Falconitpt he could tidy until next week and it would be no better. I am calming down now and think the computer stuff is enough. It is annoying to spend £100 and have it damaged in less than a month. I take your point mum2 too many punishments at once.

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TheFalconInThePearTree · 17/12/2008 14:51

I'm a fan of natural consequences. I can't think of a precise one for this but no computer access for a week would be close enough.

Taking away his advent calendar and keeping him in his room for a week is too much.

NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 17/12/2008 14:52

totally understand ur frustration, but try to punish in perspective. ie taking away the computer games etc is relevent. tidying his room really isnt.
do u see what i mean?
been there though, its always after a few weeks they do these things never a few months!

Original poster
MikeStand · 17/12/2008 14:52

LIZS he has some mild SEN but does know not to damage things. he has probably done it when crss with a game. A scoot round google shows the screens are far from tough. Very prone to marking and accidental damage apparently. Have a applied screen protector now.

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MikeStand · 17/12/2008 14:54

Falcon read the post properly I am not planning to keep him in his room for a week. I said a weeks worth of tidying would make no difference. it was an attempt at a joke.

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controlfreakyhohohohohohoho · 17/12/2008 14:55

fgs. what are you going to do to him when it's something really really serious??

maybe you could give him a lump of coal for christmas?

why does his room need tidying every day for 10 days anyway??

TheFalconInThePearTree · 17/12/2008 14:57

You said ''go to his room after school and tidy it until bedtime'' which made me think he'd be confined to his room.

Coldtits · 17/12/2008 14:57

you are being a bully.

PingpingsatonSantasface · 17/12/2008 14:58

YABU my Step Mum did that to my little sister didn't give her presents at xmas and she had to watch us open ours then when the family gave her presents she was allowed to open them but they were taken off her. She was 11 I don't even know why they did this.

TheFalconInThePearTree · 17/12/2008 14:59

That's so cruel Ping.

bohemianbint · 17/12/2008 14:59

Sorry, thought from the title your son had damaged his son! (DS)

Coldtits · 17/12/2008 15:00

Oh, so you're not really going to make him go to his room after school every day and tiy it until bedtime? That's how your first post reads.

Agree take the whole thing away but don't cancel Christmas, it's mean and irrelevant.

PingpingsatonSantasface · 17/12/2008 15:01

Yeah for sure it was awful but for all of us as we felt bad for her and embaressed. Step mum was an evil witch

NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 17/12/2008 15:09

bohemian, so did i!

duchesse · 17/12/2008 15:11

Yes YABU. That is a massive over-reaction. By all means confiscate the DS for a sensible length of time (say, forever a week?) though.

muggglewump · 17/12/2008 15:15

I'd just take the DS away for a week and get him to tidy his room until it's tidy. Everything else seems a bit harsh.

saintmaybe · 17/12/2008 15:21

Natural consequence is that his ds is damaged, you don't replace it. You are being way harsh.

Why are you so angry, is this normal for you?

saintmaybe · 17/12/2008 15:23

And his over-reaction due to frustration seems to be pretty much mirrored by yours

sasamax · 17/12/2008 15:26

OMG Ping - that is so cruel!