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Original poster

Have expected MIL to say something?

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:22

Now in the grand scheme of things, this isn't hugely serious, but it's bugging me.

I went away for the night last Saturday (to London to see Barry Manilow, before you ask) and dh took dd to his parents house. Dd was wearing a sweet little pink tracksuit, and the tracksuit top had little sequins all over it. What can I say? We like the bling. It was really nice. I promise. Anyway...

When I got home on Sunday afternoon, dh said, 'Oh my mum washed the clothes that dd was wearing on Saturday, they're upstairs'. When I went to put them away, every single one of the sequins had gone. She must have washed it on too hot a cycle.

AIBU to expect that she must have noticed, when she folded it up, and could have at least acknowledged it. I know she was trying to help by washing her clothes, but I still think she could have said something to dh.

What do you think?

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themulledmanneredjanitor · 12/12/2008 14:26

maybe she sat with some nail scissors and cut them all of-in the intersts of good taste?[frin]

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:26

It was really nice, I swear. I have excellent taste.

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DeckHallsWithFIMBOughsofHolly · 12/12/2008 14:27

She probably didn't notice. My mum used to do this type of thing all the time, it wouldn't have crossed her mind tbh.

TippytheTipsyTurkeychick · 12/12/2008 14:29

Excellent in a Barry Manilow sorta way? Hmm
Did you ever find the sequins? Are they in the washing machine drum or did she actually snip em off?

prettybutterfly · 12/12/2008 14:29

I think, on balance, that it was all for the best

choccynutter · 12/12/2008 14:29

she must of notice all sequins would been in the machien didn't ur dh notice when he got them bk.

sunnygirl1412 · 12/12/2008 14:29

I expect she'll notice when one of the sequins gets into the motor of her washing machine and blows it up.

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:30

Honestly, look at my profile, do I look like someone who dresses their dd badly? OK, I admit that Barry is an acquired taste...

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prettybutterfly · 12/12/2008 14:30

Tippy, wouldn't the threads still be on, even if the sequins weren't?

And how hot would it have to be to melt them all off? Where was the mess?

I think mil has snippety snipped ....

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 12/12/2008 14:32

We stayed with my MIL for a while when we were having an extension built. The number of my clothes that she shrank in the tumble dryer (it as summer so I don't know why things were in there!) or ds's clothes that she ironed on the print so it all went funny got beyond a joke but she really, really was completely oblivious to it! It was only when I asked her repeatedly to stop doing our laundry for us and she asked why that she realised! Yours may well be the same!!

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:32

I suspect they were glued on, rather than sewn. Oh, OK, I confess, it was from Primark.

Why did I start this discussion?

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choccynutter · 12/12/2008 14:32

i agree with prettybutterfly

CatchaChristmasStar · 12/12/2008 14:33

It's one of those things, it's annoying but it's probably something she's done to try and help out and been too embarrassed to mention perhaps?

nailpolish · 12/12/2008 14:33

she probablyh thought dd would eat the sequins and choke to death so cut them off to save her life

barry manilow is fab isnt he - i saw him in concert too

TippytheTipsyTurkeychick · 12/12/2008 14:34

good point, there would surely be threads if they were proper sequins. but some peeople say sequins when they mean sparkly bits.
I'm assuming you meant proper full on sequins Pink so I have to deduce that the MIL is a snipper.
I'm back off to Cabot Cove

TippytheTipsyTurkeychick · 12/12/2008 14:34

good point, there would surely be threads if they were proper sequins. but some peeople say sequins when they mean sparkly bits.
I'm assuming you meant proper full on sequins Pink so I have to deduce that the MIL is a snipper.
I'm back off to Cabot Cove

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:35

Honestly nailpolish, I nearly peed myself with excitement. Although I was aghast at all the stony faced women sat around us.

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TippytheTipsyTurkeychick · 12/12/2008 14:35

twice in fact

nailpolish · 12/12/2008 14:37

did he change suits a hundred times? when i went to see him he had a screen that he kept changing behind
it was bizarre!
i love him

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:38

Maybe they were in fact 'sparkly bits'. I have washed it twice, with no resulting trauma to said sparkly bits. I think she sabotaged it.

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unavailable · 12/12/2008 14:38

Pink - if Barry really does look like he did on Strictly Come Dancing on Saturday, then mabe the audience werent stony faced but completely immobile-faced due to too much botox - in homage to the great man himself.

gosh, he looked weird!

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:39

I love him too. I cried when he sang 'Somewhere down the Road', it made me think of dd leaving home when she's older. Although 'Looks like we made it' is my fave.

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 12/12/2008 14:40

I bet she didn't even notice. My mum wouldn't.

She might wonder why her husbands pants get all sparkly though and where he has been

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Pinkjennybellrock · 12/12/2008 14:41

I did consider ringing her to suggest she might want to check her drum.

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Lulumama · 12/12/2008 14:43

oh jenny, i heart you and your spangly sequinned tracksuit

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