To think this woman hasn't a clue what she's talking about and she's supposed to be qualified!

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Be gentle with me I'm feeling very sensitive about all this, BUT ... AIBU to so pissed off with this woman?

I work for a large organisation that is well known to the public, I have been signed off sick by my doctor with PND, even though my daughter is now 15 months? I am into my second month sick and I have been made to go to an occupational health appointment with an 'adviser'.

So I went to the appointment today, the woman had my information wrong saying I was into my third month sick, she then asked me to explain why 'I thought I had depression', so cutting a long story short, I explained the 4 years TTC, 3 cycles of IVF, 1 miscarriage, horrendous pregnancy, unplanned C section and dreadful problems with the breastfeeding, all this leading to problems in my relationship and she just completely ignored all I said? She obviously didn't listen to some of what I said as she asked the opposite question to what I had told her, I ended up in tears as I had just spilled something that still torments me daily.

She decided that as my daughter is now 15 months it 'couldn't possibly be PND' and I'm not depressed 'just a bit emotional' OMG I nearly chinned her, I asked her if she was a doctor and she replied no, but knows about these things!!

My doctor did the scale thing and listened to me and decided I was depressed and gave me some tablets. This woman has now written a report to my employers stating I haven't got PND and they will then decide what to do?

I know it does seem late to be diagnosed with PND but when I look back at all this I have been like this since DD was 8 months, but I chose to ignore it all?

Sorry this is so long, I just needed to rant, I feel like I've taken a step back as I had started to feel better, then this bloody woman chose not to believe me.

Hi

Thanks so much for all your replies!

I have now phoned the company that employs her, its a large OH company and I asked them anonymously what qualifications there people have, they are supposedly called 'practitioners' and they are not doctors, however I remember the woman that saw me telling me she is a qualified midwife!

I explained in a round about way what she said to me and he said she is not allowed to make a 'diagnosis' and can only advise. He asked if I wanted to make a formal complaint, but I'm going to wait until her report arrives to see what she has said and to see if I have more ammunition!

I'm feeling a little better about it all now, I've found out from my best friend who is a manager for the same organisation that the most they can do to me at the moment is an oral warning for my sick time and she said not to worry about it? She knows her stuff but is also angry about how I've been treated

I'll keep you updated ...?

What a twunt the woman sounds . I had a OH phone interview for an NHS job I was applying for. Becasue I'd had depression twice, she wasn't sure I was suitable for the work in a hospital. WTF?? I calmly pointed out that lots of people are diagnosed wtih depression, get help (I sought help both times) and get better. It's the people who don't try to sort out their mental health issues who worry me (and I know lots of them).

It sounds like you have had a really tough time but you are doing fantastically well. (I've done the infertility/IVF thing too - it is crap). Sorry not to be more constructive (fortunatley other posters have been more positive than me ), just wanted to offer support

Good luck with your recovery.

i ahvent had chance to read anything but your op as yet, but just to say i wasnt diagnosed until dd was 9 months old!..its finally admitting it then seeking help that takes the time, not when it started for you, hope you can get to speak to someone about her attitude!

Oh, please post this in employment!