to be thinking about a fling with someone I work with?

[scarlets]

I'm fed up with my husband of ten years. He contributes less than I do financially and he does no housework. I'm the one holding the cards, which I don't like - I want an equal partner. He is an amazing dad to our girls and son though and I want to give them a stable up-bringing so leaving him is out of the question. I also love my parents-in-law and his sisters.

A man at work is very interested in me and I really fancy him (I don't fancy my husband). He's 11 years younger and is going travelling in April, so it'd be a brief, no-strings fling. It's our company's Christmas dinner on Saturday and I'm thinking about what to do...I'd love some "action" to be honest, with someone who isn't relying on me to pay the rent, get the children to school and wash the floors.

AIBU?

better check yer fancy man doesnt have form for boffing the married burds.he may have a trail of conquests and discarded wedding rings

rosebud ?

yeah,check it out from Ann Summer catalogue !

< leaves thread in a hurry >

I used to work in a big office where this kind of thing happened all the time. Seriously, I would estimate at least two thirds of the male employees including the management and directors had played around at an office do at some point. Horrific, and I do hope and pray that office wasn't representative of all offices around the land or we're all in trouble.

My point is, these flings went on, people thought they were being discreet but in reality we all knew (and gossiped) about it. Things get out no matter how discreet you think you're being, it only takes someone seeing you leave together, clocking an intimate look or similar to put 2 and 2 together. I used to be an expert, I speak from experience!!

I can understand your temptation but think you really need to look at your relationship, uncomfortable as it may be. A fling may bring short term pleasure but can it be worth the guilt that will inevitably follow? And can you then cope with such closeness followed by him leaving? Good luck.

kettlechip is right ( and to restore faith in human nature it tended to be a few repeat offenders that were usually involved) -everyone knows even if you think they don't.. you get to learn the signs (I still enjoy a game of "thats not your wife/husband" if I'm out on the town around xmas)

I think its a little infra dig to sleep with someone at work especially at the Christmas party.
Try reading "the Delta of Venus" before bed...together.... with your husband

yabu

lol at "infra dig"

I'm trialling 80's sloaney expressions

you likey?

What is "infra dig???"

Yeah clit bangers have there place for sure. I bought one which is attached to a cock ring, tho the cock ring is not a cock ring in the traditional sence iyswim (i.e. it is not tight or designed to acheive/maintain/sustain an erection). The cock ring bit just gives the clit banger somenthing to hold onto! The clit banger bit is just like the clit banger bit on the rampant rabbit dildo (which is also ace)- satisfaction guarenteed.

Have not used the cock ring thing for years now tho as it gave me premature ejaculation! i could only take sex for about 30 secs before i came. Think you can get this kind of thing from lots of sex shops. Would defo make an ideal xmas gift and will ensure that christmas day goes with a bang!

how will having a fling solve the troubles with your husband. Why don't you do something to get your husband to share the load more - or just tell your husband it's not working and you want to split up?

If you betray your husband you are betraying your kids and everything that family stands for.

If you do have a fling and get found out you will deserve everthing that happens to you, but your kids don't deserve it.

gotta larf at tinseltot

am presuming you are a bloke, tinseltot

what a strange matter-of-fact convo to be having about sex toys in the midst of an infidelity thread

bet he's getting off on all these rampant sex starved women talking about sex toys! hehe

No am a woman, tho see how my loose use of the phrase 'premature ejaculation' threw you! Only use this term as dp would laugh at me for coming so quickly. he called me his little 3 thrust wonder!

You're right it is a strange turn for the op's thread to have taken but the point is that she seems to have written off her poor hubby in favour of a shag with some random bloke she does not even care about! She defo needs to try to liven and shake up her marriage up a bit instead of seeking thrills that tho apparently cheap will come at a very price for her family if word of her infidelity gets out (and you just know that it will....).

Sex toys would defo be preferable to her unreasonable proposal!

Am also 29 weeks pregnant with my third so defo no getting off on sex toys for me!
xx

sex toys are preferable to a lot of things .... hehehe

sorry tot, think I'm losing the plot 'ere with talk of clitbangers and thrusting

STOP THE FILTH.

hell no -i have no idea what they are on about but it is reviving a turgid thread.come on.more