to have joked about the colour pink??

[swottybetty]

i am still quite new to this parenting business. took dd to her a birthday party at the weekend - the first she'd ever been to. children aged between 6mo and six i reckon.

at end of food, mum of birthday girl brings out a plate of pink and lilac cup cakes for the kids. as everyone dives i say "ho ho - no, i think those pink cakes are just for the girls. the boy might be getting an apple later" half a dozen uncertain faces look at me, then big laugh and i'm patting my back at my oh so funny joke as the kids start stuffing faces. all except one little boy (ages 4 or 5) whose parents have jumped in to let him know its okay to have a cake. before telling me (in a not unfriendly, but def not friendly vooice) that pink is his favourite colour.

did i mess up? is that a huge parenting no no?? the joke was after all that the pink cakes were for everyone... not just the girls....

boyss not boy. its wasnt like i just singled the lone boy out

pink is for girls....as is any shade of

blue is for boys....as is any shade of.

thats the truth.

LOL

Why would you effectively tell a 4yo boy that he can't have a cake??

Custardo - very true.

In particular, bluish pink and pinkish blue.

Swotty - yep I think you have committed a bit of a faux pas. But everyone has had a dose of foot-in-mouth and some point or t'other during this business of raising sprogs.

yes you messed up your numpty

It wouldnt have occured to me that the cakes were just for girls because they were pink, but hey we all have bouts of verbal diahria(sp?) dont beat yourself up

I'm sure you are worrying about nothing but do remember that children don't "get" those kind of jokes, I'd be more concerned about upsetting the kids than the adults - they might have taken it literally. And if I had been the party mum I would probably have been a bit

BTW lots of boys love pink, both of mine did until they were about 6 but lots of parents on the other hand (especially dads!) can be a bit odd about it

there was more than one boy btw

ach drat and darnit.

said boy will be okay, right? and should see that it was an innocent mistake made in the spirit of partying??

Sounds like you had a wee bout of verbal diorrhea. (How the hell do you spell that, anyway?).

I do this kind of thing all the time through nerves.

Don't worry about it.

thats the parents should see it was an inncent mistake, right? all those s you guys are doing are scaring me

for BooBooBeDoo...

Diarrhoea
Is
Awful,
Really
Runny,
Hurry
Or
Else
Accident!

that's how I remember it!!

I think children that age don't "get" jokes so the parents probably jumped in because they knew their ds would take it literally!
But not worth losing any sleep about!

looby, that is brilliant!

You should have told the boy 'oh stop being such a Jessy and just eat the pink cake'

i cant go to tinytalk anymore after i found out half the group (including woman who ran it) knew each other from local baptist church. yup, i found this out after enquiring whether mum and toddler groups at churches were worth going to ... or were they just all-christian affairs. really,i shoudnt be let out.

• once learnt never forgotten!

and while i meant "all-christian" i think i actually said "full of secret christians" WHY???????? WHY would anyoen say that stuff. i have really depressed myself now.

swotty- well, you will be very welcome at the toddler group I run at our church, we take in all the waifs and strays no one else wants

(JOKE! - we just welcome EVERYONE!)

Swottybetty: you are funny.

After three or more of these kinds of gaffes, I generally just move house.

Seriously, don't worry about it! People are generally far too caught up in their own stuff to really listen to everything one says anyway, I find.

Loobeylou: brilliant; thank you!

and your full of forgiveness too, right? i really need some absoltion right now. i am getting cramp from all the toe-curling. and honestly, why would anyone be secretly christian at a church?