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I am feeling bad but i don't think it is unreasonable

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 10:25

I am trying to get some routine back into ds2's life after it has gone out the window snce dp was made redundant and he hates to hear him shout and cry.
ANYWAY
ds2 is so tired so i have put him in his travel cot in the living room with me. He drank his hot chocolate and now has thrown the bottle out of his cot and is standing up shouting at me while yawning. I am trying to ignore him as I know he is tired......should i get him out and let him play some more? he is not crying just shouting.
he is 14 months old

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thisisyesterday · 05/12/2008 10:27

hmm well, perhaps he would be better up in his cot? there is probably far too much to see in the living room with you, so I can understand why he wants out!
have you tried settling him down in a dark room in the quiet?

shitehawk · 05/12/2008 10:28

Yep, he'd be better away from you, up in the room and cot which he associates with sleep.

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 10:28

This, sorry should have said he always naps in the living room and of an evening he goes to sleep in here and goes into his cot when i go to bed.

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claw3 · 05/12/2008 10:34

Must be hard for him to sleep with you in the same room, very tempting!

If you get him out, you will make a rod for your own back really.

ThePregnantMerryYuleWitch · 05/12/2008 10:36

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 10:46

Claw he has always been in the same room as me when he naps. I put tiny pops on or barney and he sits and watches it until he falls asleep.

I couldn't put him in his bed to sleep as i have to see him or i will panic all over again

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LedodgyChristmasjumper · 05/12/2008 10:49

Maybe giving him a milky drink rather than hot chocolate would help the sugar and caffeine in hot chocolate definately perks my children up rather than aids sleep.

blinks · 05/12/2008 10:51

put travel cot upstairs and try to find other way of getting him to sleep... maybe a musical nightlight?

you're making life harder for yourself in the long run by sticking to your 'routine' and TV to get to sleep is bonkers

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 10:51

Ledodgy, I have only given him that as he has had a lot of milk this morning since he woke up. he won't eat breakfast for love or money lol. I have tried and tried but no luck on that score.

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 10:52

He won't sleep in another room have tried before and it doesn't work.

He needs to see me as much as i do him,

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Ronaldinhio · 05/12/2008 10:53

tv and hot chocolate to aid restful sleep

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 10:56

Ronaldinhio...hot chocolate has been given to children for years before they go to bed.

As for the tv I am watching a film he is laying down now with his blanket and dummy

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KatieDD · 05/12/2008 11:11

Whisky used to be given to children, doesn't mean it's a good idea.
No wonder he's bouncing around.

lowenergylightbulb · 05/12/2008 11:15

Oh come on - give the woman a break FFS. Hot chocolate isn't feckin' crack cocaine.

To the OP - I'd get him out TBH, at this age their day time sleep/nap patterns can change and IME once they start the shouting thing they can get too worked up to sleep.

If you really think that he needs to sleep what about taking him out in his pushchair/pram for a bit to 'encourage' him to drop off?

mumof2222222222222222boys · 05/12/2008 11:17

As that seems to be working for you, YANBU. However, there is no way it would work for me and/or DS at that age - as others have said if they are tired they go to their bedroom.

It may be difficult to change habits that you are used to, but perhaps it is something that you should consider? It sounds like you have made a rod for your own back.

"He won't sleep in another room have tried before and it doesn't work. "

What, ever?

mumof2222222222222222boys · 05/12/2008 11:19

Can't do italics

Agree with low energy light blulb...bit of fresh air and a walk in push chair would be good. Sunny here. But I am supposed to be working again!

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 11:20

Lowenergy,
I have him out now he is sitting in the kitchen (which is in the living room open plan) playing with a toothbrush, bottle and cup. whilst gripping his blanket lol. my living room and kitchen are wrecked!!!

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ComeOVeneer · 05/12/2008 11:20

Hot choc in a bottle is a bad idea dentally!

Ronaldinhio · 05/12/2008 11:22

hot chocolate may not be crack but it's a slippery slope.....

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 11:23

DS2 has NEVER slept in a room away from me since i brought him home from hospital, I have my reasons for this...

this should give a bit more information

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 05/12/2008 11:23

the odd bottle of chocolate will not harm him fgs.

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wannaBe · 05/12/2008 11:27

is there some bigger issue here?

You said you need to constantly see him - why?

The hot chocolate is irelevant atm - it's not good for his teeth in a bottle but that in itself is not the end of the world.

But you have a 14 month old who is unable to settle himself to sleep without the aid of television and you being in the same room.

You are really not doing him any favours by allowing this to continue - he is old enough to learn other ways to self settle. You don't have to abandon him to do it himself, but really television is not the answer.

What will you do when he's 2, 3, 5, will you be allowing him to fall asleep on the couch and carrying him to bed? or will he be getting his own tv as soon as he moved into his own room?

I'm sorry but this really isn't the answer, and you need to start thinking of being cruel to be kind and take away the television and move him away from the lounge so that he starts to associate bed with sleep.

lowenergylightbulb · 05/12/2008 11:28

hot chocolate is a slippery slope to what exactly?! Drugs? Gun running? A life of crime? Spending more than £100 a week on your shopping? Earning more than 100K a year?

Ronaldinhio · 05/12/2008 11:33

OMG I never even considered that...

Do you think so lowerenergy?

nappyaddict · 05/12/2008 11:33

Perhaps instead of hot chocolate you could try making a malted milk drink. You can buy malt powder from chemists and health food shop. It tastes better than horlicks and doesn't have any of the other crap in it.