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To expect after days of work and stacks of money my toddlers wouldn't trash their room?

109 replies

ItsAllTooMuch · 03/12/2008 21:10

I've cried about it. It doesn't help.

We spent ages decorating, got new furniture and toys.

Every day bits of the wall are chipped off, they somehow smuggle crayons in there, so the walls are covered in scribbles. Their beds end up in the middle of the room with the bed linen thrown off, drawers are emptied.

I'm sick of it.

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Mutt · 03/12/2008 22:06

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ScottishMummy · 03/12/2008 22:08

oh pipedown you are on MN also!so not hanging at the bedroom door for any wee sqeaks.are you having a go at op?

AlanPartridgeInAPearTree · 03/12/2008 22:08

Ah Mutt, now you're talking. See, either the OP is incredibly dim, or it's a T-R-O-L-L

MakemineaGandT · 03/12/2008 22:09

gosh, you're being a bit harsh on OP AlanP and Mutt - who knows what her circumstances are? She might have 7 children to keep an eye on for all we know!

AlanPartridgeInAPearTree · 03/12/2008 22:09

Yes I am on MN - at 10pm, I assume that is NOT when OPs toddlers are busy wrecking the joint, as all our little darlings should be fast asleep, no?

Mutt · 03/12/2008 22:09

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AlanPartridgeInAPearTree · 03/12/2008 22:10

If she has 7 kids she would have learnt how to cope with these behaviours, surely!!

georgimama · 03/12/2008 22:10

Well I don't know about everyone else but my toddler is asleep, and I have a baby monitor. I don't need to hang around outside the bedroom door.

ScottishMummy · 03/12/2008 22:11

oh jesus wept you troll squawkers are so paranoid.do you just hang around waiting to shout J'Accuse

AmIWhatAndWhy · 03/12/2008 22:12

Thanks a fucking bunch.

They are 2 and 3.

DS is AS with language problems, I was hoping not to have to mention the fact.

Moe I'd hope people would give me advice on how to handle it. They go to sleep, I wake up, the room is trashes.

georgimama · 03/12/2008 22:13

I didn't say the OP was a troll. You asked why if we are so perfect we are on MN not supervising our children and I just pointed out that my child is in bed.

AmIWhatAndWhy · 03/12/2008 22:13

Fuck, I outed myself, but never mind.

AmIWhatAndWhy · 03/12/2008 22:14

See, either the OP is incredibly dim, or it's a T-R-O-L-L

fuck you

Mutt · 03/12/2008 22:14

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georgimama · 03/12/2008 22:14

I'm just really amazed that they are capable of moving their beds. What kind of beds do they have?

If crayons get misused, don't let them take them upstairs. How covert can a 2 year old be?

ScottishMummy · 03/12/2008 22:15

shame you cant post an innocuous post without getting jumped upon by the troll patrol

georgimama · 03/12/2008 22:15

Fuck who?

AmIWhatAndWhy · 03/12/2008 22:15

thanks thatsnotmymonster , you made me smile.

Mutt · 03/12/2008 22:16

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AmIWhatAndWhy · 03/12/2008 22:17

In what way did I give half the story?

By saying toddlers in the thread title you would know how old they are.

Umlellala · 03/12/2008 22:17

Hey, hey, calm down.

If you post in AIBU, people answer mainly lighthearted. If you post in Parenting/Behaviour then people will make suggestions... anyway, I did!

let them trash, make them tidy is kinda my rule

ScottishMummy · 03/12/2008 22:18

i mean any hysterical reactionary assumption to a post getting giddy vying 1st to shout troll

georgimama · 03/12/2008 22:19

You didn't say one of your children is AS with language problems, which presumably makes communication and discipline more of an issue, I think that is what Mutt was referring to.

Don't let them take stickers and crayons upstairs, simple really.

AmIWhatAndWhy · 03/12/2008 22:19

By KatieDD on Wed 03-Dec-08 21:23:57
My little buggers have put stickers all over their extremely expensive bunkbeds.
But it's me at fault, I shouldn't have wasted my money, lesson learnt.
Toddlers do not give a shit about our interior design plans, stop reading Junior magazine, it'll help I promise, on so many levels.

Fuck you too. Sadly we have no hope of extremly expensive bunk beds. Or junior magazine, that's a meal for us.

You can be a pile of bitches sometimes.

AlanPartridgeInAPearTree · 03/12/2008 22:20

OK - advise to OP - benefit of the doubt and all that

  1. ban crayons - have them out only supervised for use on paper at the table in your sight. Then out of reach

  2. have consequences for bad behaviour - remove a toy, or threaten to, if toys are left all over and they will not tidy up

  3. make tidying up a game - who can find something X colour, who can be first to find 3 toys, who can find XYZ to put in the box, if you have red socks on find mummy an X, if you have a green T shirt find and X - mine all love this, we call it the listen and do game, rather than tidying up!!

  4. incentives/rewards/good old fashioned bribery - eg let's do this job then go get a biscuit/watch (insert fave programme here)

5)sticker chart/bit of healthy competiton or combined effort from Dcs to get X stickers then day out/treat etc

is that more helpful?

just seems so obviously common sense