DS3 is in 6th form, he has a part time job where he earns about £300 a month and because dh was on a really low income last year ds3 also gets the full £30 EMA every week. Out of this we take no money from him whatsoever, it's his to do with as he sees fit. All we ask of him is to walk the family dog for 10mins a day and perhaps the odd chore like put the bins out or bring them in, unstack the dishwasher occasionally or put his stuff in it....
I decided in the summer that all my ds's would do their own washing as to be honest they were really taking the p*ss. I was doing three loads a day and where me and dh would try something on decide not to wear it we would then hang it back up my ds's put it in the wash. This included stuff that had been ironed and put on their bed but when they came in it got dumped on the floor, creased and they then decided to put it back in the wash. When I implemented this rule their washing load mysteriously reduced to 2 loads a week...
Anyway, over the last few months he's become increasingly more annoying.
He rarely takes the dog out, the one thing he's been specifically asked to do. If I ask him to do anything he looks at me like I'm an arsehole. He treats my home like it's a hotel. He's moody, arrogant, and dismissive with me and I really can't be arsed to appease him any more.... Little shit!
I run out of plates and glasses because they're all in his room with his very own special brand of mould growing in them.
Anyway, this weekend was the final straw. On the Saturday night when he came in he took 4 socks and a tea towel out of the washing machine that I'd put in there for the next wash, shoved them on the breakfast bar (dirty) and then proceeded to wash a half load of washing on a full load??? WTF! AND on the Sunday morning he ordered a taxi to take him the 1 mile to work and then let it wake the whole house up by being in his room while the taxi decided he'd had enough of waiting outside for him and knocked on the door at 7.50 on Sunday morning.... Knowing full well that his dad gets up between 4.30 and 6.30 all week depending on what shift he's on and only gets a lie in at weekends.
SO...........
Did I do wrong giving him this:
House Rules.
Since you behave the same (or worse) than a lodger, here are your new house rules as of Monday 1st December. If in the future you become less self obsessed and want to be part of a family again then we will look at relaxing the rules.
You will not be asked at any time to do any jobs or tasks.
You will be in the house by 11.00pm every week night. Unless arranged in advance.
You will be in the house by 12.00pm at weekends. Unless arranged in advance.
You have access to your bedroom, the bathroom and the kitchen only.
Any other room is out of bounds (including ds4's) unless you are invited.
If at home you should be in your room by 10.00pm.
You can shower once per day between the hours of 7.00am and 10.00pm (Mon-Fri).
At weekends showers to be taken between 10.00am and 10.00pm.
The kitchen or anything in it are not for your use.
The car is not for your use.
Washing to be done at launderette.
The washing line is not for your use, nor is the drier.
The only reason you will be in the kitchen is to fetch a drink or have breakfast.
You will be offered 1 cooked meal per day.
Visitors are not allowed.
Loud music is not allowed.
The PC is not for your use. Homework to be done at schools computer.
If you phone for a taxi ask them not to knock on the door. Wait downstairs.
If your friends pick you up ask them to turn the stereo down before they arrive.
If you choose to ignore the above rules, or we end up working for you again ( clearing up the bathroom, having to fetch pots from your room because we?ve ran out, clearing up because you can?t tidy the kitchen after you) etc etc then you will be paying weekly board. There will be no more warnings. In consideration of the fact that you don`t eat here every night your board will be set at £30 per week with the same rules as above. In consideration of paydays you will be given two weeks notice that you will be paying for board and lodgings.