to be upset that she stole our name

[Naive]

When we had DS we really liked a girls name so because we never got to use it and because we're trying for another baby very soon (DS is a few months old) we decided we would call the next baby that if it's a girl. We told DP's friends this, not realising they were expecting. They didn't even know at that point.

DP is part of a big group of friends who are sort of well known and well liked in the town, particularly for people of our age range.

They have gone and called their baby the name we love, so now we can't call our baby that as everyone will think we copied and it's already taken now.

I'm not angry or anything, I'm just miffed and deflated.

AIBU?

Pick a different name then register it Here. That should sort the men from the boys.

I don't think YABU, I think it was a shitty thing of them to do.

Nothing you can do about it, but at least you know what kind of friends you have.

Really skidoodle - shitty? Isn't that a bit OTT?

I apparently stole DB's favourite boys' name, I'm pretty certain he never mentioned it me in advance, but he doesn't seem to be bothered and has just named his son something completely completely different.

If you don't want people to think...what a lovely name. Keep your mouth shut. QED

Moral of the story, don't tell anyone any names you'd like to use in the future. We kept ds' name secret from everyone til he was born, my friend then turned round and said it was her favourite name and if I hadn't called my ds by it she would have used it for hers (he was 5 months younger).. oops!

we were miffed when our friends did the same to us (After the mother said she doesn't like that name), but when we had our dd2 we named her that name. it suits her very well!

Still cackling at T-Birds. Was the dangblasted name Frenchie, by any chance? Or Rizzo?

Since you are not currently pregnant with a little girl, then you probably are being unreasonable but to be honest, I would definately be miffed too if I was in your situation so I suppose imo, your not being U, ifkwim?

I remember when I was pregnant with dd, my brother in laws girlfriend was pregnant too (8 weeks "more" pregnant), anyway, she asked me one day what names I had in mind and I told her, at the time, we were thinking of going with Kayleigh if it was a girl.

1 month later she turned around and told me, if she had a girl (first!!!) she would be calling her Kayla.

hmm Kayleigh and Kayla - first cousins, daddys brothers, 2 month age difference - dont think so!!

I was soooo angry at the time!!.

Funny though, turned out she had a little boy and I had dd - didnt use Kayleigh at all - in fact it wasnt even one of our "short list" names and I don't particulary love it now anyway....

People are really weird and illogical about this. Does anybody remember the baby shower in SATC when our girls walk out in disgust becuase somebody stole Charlottes 'baby name'?

I have a friend who is obsessed about her 'baby name'. She isn't pg, in fact she doesn't live with her DP yet and she changes her bn every week or so. I'm not pg either but there aren't many names left that she hasn't bagsied at some point!

I was telling a good friend about my brother's baby and she was excited and pleased, until she asked his name and I told her. She fell silent. I was like 'what, don't you like that name', and she said 'I really like that name. That was what I considered calling DS'.

She was hurt that my brother had unknowingly named his child with the name she decided not to call her son.

It's not rational I suppose, so to feel a bit miffed YANBU.