To think that DH should be able to buy me a present without getting a list from me.

[gscrym]

We've been married for 10 years and every year it's the same. For our 10th anniversary, he asked what I wanted, the night before. For my birthday last week, he asked for a list to go to Boots with. Last night he asked 'what do you want for Christmas'. I told him I hadn't thought about it. He said 'oh well, if you don't pick something, you might not get anything!'

I've never asked him what he wants. I remember wee things he's looked at or got him something to do with one of his hobbies. I don't want him to spend a lot but I would like him to think about what I might like without me having to give him a list from the Boots catalogue.

Last year, I picked what I wanted from the Origins site, he put his card number in and that was what I got.

yabu
he is a man
this is what they do

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YABU - most of them are like this ,however there is the odd one who is not, obviously yours isn't one of them.

Well yes, of course he should.

But you know he won't. And I'd rather get something I really want by chosing myself, than take pot luck and get some weird random offering like the ones my dh usually makes when he chooses a present for himself.

have you ever bitched in the past about something he chose for you?

If not, tell him you will be very happy with him choosing you a gift

and actually show happiness when he hands you a new iron

or alternatively get something you like the way you always do it

In this house we hate wasting money on crap so we buy what the other wants with a very small surprise gift

I always do a list for DH and he can let relatives know some ideas.

It means I get thinks I want and need

When we were going out with each other, many moons ago, he always bought me nice things. I have 3 beautiful necklaces from before we were married. I've never made any bitchy comment to him about anything I've been bought, nor would I.

I know this is how men are, I know they work better if given lists and pointed in the right direction. But just once, I like to feel like he got me something he thought I'd like, rather than something I told him I would.

Laury, I actually wouldn't mind a new iron as the one we have is on the fritz.

YABU....DH panics about what to get me and now it is easier if he takes me out for the day, I choose allsorts I like and he then decides which ones to get and pays. Far easier on both sides!

I would hit my dh on the head with the iron if he bought me one

One of my work mates told his wife he was buying her a bread maker for Christmas. She told him to expect the solicitors letter by New Year.

YABu.

I give dp a list of ideas eg I would like any of these three perfumes, a box of Hotel chocolat chocs, a silver bracelet etc and then it's sort of a surprise but I always get something that I'd want.

ive been with my dp 5 yrs and always ask what he would like and prefer to do this as what you like one moment may not be what you really want

ive made the mistake many times getting my dp something he had mentioned he wanted got it to find he didnt like that anymore same as me i change my mind all the time so am happy to help if it means i'll be happy with what he has bought me

I have told him. I get the following standard responses -

'I don't want to get you something you won't like'

'I don't have time to think about it'

'Well don't moan if you don't like it'

I have a wishlist in Amazon. I've told him about that. He says he doesn't have time to rummage about on the computer. I'll just stick to giving him a list. Sorry to sound unreasonable, I have to just accept that's how it is.

I always give dh a list as well. I just make it a nice long list so I still don't know exactly what I'm getting but I know it will always be something I like.

You are not alone gscrym

Please, Please, Please don't make us pick presents out! It's cruel and unusual punishment.

Anyway do you really want to wear clothes or perfume that we'd pick out? You can buy a shirt for a man and as long as it buttons up that's good enough, but it won't work the other way round.

Do we pick something sexy or practical. Either way is a minefield "Do I look like the sort of woman who would wear THAT!!"

If we get a size too small you'll be embarrassed that it doesn't do up. If we guess you're a larger size we'll be sleeping on the sofa.

Tell yourself that your tastes are too subtle for us mere males to appreciate

gscrym - you are not alone, I have the same problem

YABU.
Mine is the same, he asks as he doesn't want to get the wrong thing.

If left up to him I'd get a Hilda Ogden wardrobe in the wrong size!!

He's a prize cock if he won't even look at your wish list on Amazon

yeh that is mean actually