to object to the way women are supposed to get little pt jobs that fit in around the family

[drpumpkinbread]

so they can always be there for the family.

i cringe when i hear somne say you wanna get a liitle part time job.

if i wanted a job i want a fuck off good one thanks.

not to be the servent skivvy that also manages to cram, paid work into my already bust life with the tiny amount of spare time i do have.

some people think pt is the best of bth worlds but i think it can also be the worse of both.

and breathe!did it feel better to vent your spleen.unfortunately not all jobs are whizz-bang brill well paid

sometimes people do what they have too

so stop whining about other people circumstances

It can be the worst of both worlds, depending on your relationship and the jobs that you both do.

For us it works, and I'm not a servant skivvy.

Well, since dd is disabled and ds is heading that way- one of us has to have a part time job. Happens to be me, could equally well be him.

I know what you mean - and it does grate when women are told to get a nice'little number', the sort that brings in 'pin money'.
And yet...and yet...
Many of the Mums at my DCs school were bankers, stock brokers, lawyers, PR consultants and they just haven't felt able to continue with their career post children. Some just don't want to fill their time doing house work so they get less well paid, part time work.
Should also say that most of their partners earn well so finances often don't come into the equasion.

well i will stop whining about other peoples circumstances when people stop telling me to get a little pt job.

i am fine as i am, and i have no intention in hell of doing everything at home and working pt aswell.

sorry to hear that cory.

litchick yes pin mony how i detest that saying.
i mean where does that actually come from anyway?
woman going out to by pins for sewing or something?

I have the same job I had before DD came along, I just do it 3 days a week instead of 5. I know not everyone has this option though.
I love working part time

Speaking as someone who has been doing a 3 day a week pt job and has become so stressed they are quitting in the new year to go freelance I can sympathise.

hang about is this a spin off from the other thread.the argy bagy about the "little part time job" comment

drpumpkinbread - what a tizzy!no one is going to drag you squawking to paid employment. do what you want to do, but do reflect your circumstances will not be same as someone else

some parents have to world pt and balance domestic commitments

Who's telling you to get a job? And why? Why are they bothered what you do?
Tell them to mind their own business, say you're perfectly happy as you are

You're right Smummy - some people don't have a choice. But Like I say I know loads of women who don't have any need t work and yet they do.
I know a lot of people wondered why I bothered carrying on working after the children pt or ft.

pp but does your dh share all the other responsibilties and childcare?

so often its always the mother tht takes days off when the children are sick etc

what other thread?
link please?

i work FT.that was always the plan.had nursery booked 11wk pg.wouldnt change it either.love working

pp, someone at a family do at the weekend.
telling me thats what i want to do.

when i have never commented to them about if i would like to work or not.

welcome to parenthood!everyone (inc strangers on MN) think they know what is best for you

No is the honest answer. Most of the partners work very long hours so these women, myself included, end up working pt and running the home etc.
But I'd still rahter work than not. And I just don't worry about things being done in a Boden fashion iyswim. The house aint a show home

sm thats great if you love it.
i'm happy for you.

but i don't like others telling me what i should do.

someone asked me if i worked, i said no.
she said oh when your dcs are older you want to get a little part time job

i did not reply.

as i said the JD of parenthood is everyone sticks their beak in!you need to desensitise or you will combust.

bottom line is what works for you.everyone else butt out

I have just ditched my little part-time job and the associated running around and skivying, to go back full-time. DH is now doing the associated running around and skivvying. Best thing I ever did. Absolutely.

I agree with you. I would never go back part-time now with young children. Too much like bloody hard work.

just personally i could see if i did work pt, i would still do everything in the home, as dh works long hours etc

i'd be the one that had to comprimise.

and if i did work, i would say sorry but your doing 50/50 childcare and house stuff

you will need to leave work early to pick the kids up from after school club or whatever

yes if i did work i would rather do ft.

Working almost full time (85% of my full time hours) at a serious job has enabled me to get a cleaner so I don't have to do all the house work and work. Just because you work pt, doesn't have to mean it's a menial job.

Just ignore these people drpumpkin - I think some people just assume that what's best for them is best for everyone else too and try to persuade everyone to do what they did. Tell them to feck off.

bottom line suit yourself.you have years to endure of other people advice.dont let it get you het up

For what it's worth DH does pull his weight with childcare and housework, although I do more housework because I tend to do it on my days off when DD is having her nap.

I can see that if DH didn't do this I would find it a lot harder.

HeadFairy - I am jealous of your cleaner though